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Linda_Howell
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I don't normally preach, but....
« on: Apr 4th, 2005, 12:56pm » |
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I just spent the last month in Los Angeles in a hospital room with my youngest son.
He was in a head-on collision on an L.A. freeway. Hit by a drunk driver going the wrong way in the fast lane. The guy was so drunk, he got on the freeway on the OFF-RAMP! Of course the drunk driver was killed instantly as was the driver of the truck my son was in. Everyone involved was under 25.
My son has had to have spinal surgery and won't know what long lasting effects this will have on his ability to walk as he has titanium rods and screws and bolts in his spine. I can't tell you how horrible it is to watch your son go through this kind of pain day after day....
I'm back home now after leaving my son to the care of others, but now I am angry!!!!!!!! My son lost his best friend, and he will never be the same physically. The problem with that... is the one to be angry at is dead.
I'd love to ask the drunk driver if the alcohol he consumed that night were worth this!!!!!!!!!
So if you're going to drink...please don't get in your car.
Linda
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Re: I don't normally preach, but....
« Reply #1 on: Apr 4th, 2005, 12:59pm » |
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Nothing I can say will help. I am so sorry hun.  Be Angry. It does not matter that he is not there to ask. Ask the question. Scream it at the top of your voice, but get that anger out. You dont want to keep that inside of you. 
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Re: I don't normally preach, but....
« Reply #2 on: Apr 4th, 2005, 1:05pm » |
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Oh Linda I'm so sorry. I'm firmly anti drinking and driving too. I was knocked down on a road crossing when I was 16 by a woman who was so drunk she didn't even know she had hit me. I spent 3 days unconcious but I was lucky. I only had my skull fractured in five places and some nasty bruising all over. It could've been a lot worse.
I would report anyone I knew who drank and drove. Way I see it is if they can do that they aren't people I want to be friends with.
I hope your son starts a speedy recovery soon
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Re: I don't normally preach, but....
« Reply #3 on: Apr 4th, 2005, 1:07pm » |
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Aw, damn, Linda - I am SO sorry to hear this. My prayers are with you and a candle lit for your son tonight.
Somehow, death doesn't seem enough for the guy that caused this, does it? 
I know your boy will be ok, he's inherited Mom's toughness.
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Re: I don't normally preach, but....
« Reply #4 on: Apr 4th, 2005, 1:08pm » |
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It'll NEVER make sense to me how people drink and get behind the wheel of their car...
I'm so sorry Linda. Praying your son recovers from this physically and emotionally.
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Re: I don't normally preach, but....
« Reply #5 on: Apr 4th, 2005, 1:08pm » |
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You're all in my prayers, Linda. I'm so sorry.
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Re: I don't normally preach, but....
« Reply #6 on: Apr 4th, 2005, 1:09pm » |
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So very sorry Linda. Our thoughts and prayers are being sent for the rapid recovery of your son.
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Re: I don't normally preach, but....
« Reply #7 on: Apr 4th, 2005, 1:10pm » |
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Oh my Linda that has to be a terrible thing to go thru for a mother.....I am so so so very sorry it had to happen !! Seems the people that get that drunk do it over and over and 'get away with it'......untill they get killed or kill someone......we have freinds that have been in jail for several DUI's and soon as they get home they are back at the bars and driveing themselves and gettin rip'd fall down staggery slurry drunk !!!! We have taken there keys cuz of it.....but there back driveing the next nite doin the same dam thing !!! And there are so many more drivers on the roads now.......danger lurks Pam
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Re: I don't normally preach, but....
« Reply #8 on: Apr 4th, 2005, 1:12pm » |
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I agree sound off!!! I am so sorry to hear what your family has been going through.
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Re: I don't normally preach, but....
« Reply #9 on: Apr 4th, 2005, 1:15pm » |
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Oh Linda, I am so sorry Thinking of you and your son, prayers on over...
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Re: I don't normally preach, but....
« Reply #10 on: Apr 4th, 2005, 1:19pm » |
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Prayers for you and your son.
I am sorry that this happened.
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Re: I don't normally preach, but....
« Reply #11 on: Apr 4th, 2005, 1:25pm » |
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Thank you all for letting me vent/preach and for your kind words.
Have you seen the movie "terms of endearment" where Shirley McClain goes stomping to the nurses desk to demand pain meds for her child in a loud and obnoxious way? That was me. (laughing about it now)
My son was passionate about cars. Wanted to open his own shop some day. I've seen that kid crawl around under the hood of a car in some God-awful positions, or under the car with grease dripping on his head and loving every min. of it.
I hope he can be satisfied with a desk job now.
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Re: I don't normally preach, but....
« Reply #12 on: Apr 4th, 2005, 1:25pm » |
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I'm with you Linda and I'm very sorry to learn this. I believe in Sweden, if you're arrested for DWI, you will never drive again.
I'm glad to see you posting but I'm sorry it's to tell us such sad news. I know things will never be the same but come here and rant away. I wish I could do more.
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Re: I don't normally preach, but....
« Reply #13 on: Apr 4th, 2005, 2:10pm » |
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I am so sorry to hear that you and your son are going through such a terrible ordeal. Here is a link which might give you some resources to get active or at least to vent:
http://www.madd.org/home/
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Re: I don't normally preach, but....
« Reply #14 on: Apr 4th, 2005, 4:22pm » |
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Love to you Linda, and with time, a good recovery for your son.
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Re: I don't normally preach, but....
« Reply #15 on: Apr 4th, 2005, 5:01pm » |
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Sorry to hear about your son Linda. Hope his recovery goes smoothly.
It's a field I work in on a daily basis - and if I had a dime for every time I've had to deal with some damned moron that thought he was okay to drive, I could likely have retired a year ago!
Hope you've got a good adjuster and some good rehab people working with him.
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Re: I don't normally preach, but....
« Reply #16 on: Apr 4th, 2005, 7:03pm » |
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I am so sorry Linda... even the kids in our country arent safe I guess. You just vent and preach... its sad that people think these things only happen to other people. It does happen. If I can do anything to help you please do not hesitate to ask... We love you so much and know you haven't had it easy over the years... them kids they don't come with guarantees do they... or a manual to tell us how to keep them safe. Gods love to you I will pray for your son ... what is his first name by the way... Love Ree
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« Reply #17 on: Apr 4th, 2005, 7:24pm » |
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Linda, we will be praying for your son and your family to get through this. It won't be easy but with God all things are possible. Yes, please what is his name?I pray you both find the confort you need during this difficult time and I rebuke the pain he is in and pray for God to heal his body. Lots of love,
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« Reply #18 on: Apr 4th, 2005, 7:28pm » |
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So sorry Linda my friend,dont know what to say
Prayers to you and your son.
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Contact your local chapter of MADD. They will no right where your at and help you work through it.
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« Reply #20 on: Apr 4th, 2005, 7:39pm » |
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Bless your heart, Linda.
It's tough to sit by your child's bedside, no matter what the age. Such a shame, your son is hurt both physically, and mentally. I can understand your anger and frustrations.
Please know that I will keep you and your son in my daily thoughts and prayers.
Take care of yourself.....and with all the prayers from this family, I am confident your son will have a speedy recovery.
Much love to you, Linda,
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« Reply #21 on: Apr 4th, 2005, 7:57pm » |
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My sons name is Daniel. Any prayers that a 21 yr. old will live a normal life after this are VERY much appreciated.
Linda
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« Reply #22 on: Apr 4th, 2005, 8:53pm » |
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Prayers on the way for Daniel to have a speedy recovery and to be all that he was before this accident.
Hugs to his Mama too!
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« Reply #23 on: Apr 4th, 2005, 9:21pm » |
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Lord, look upon Daniel with eyes of mercy, may your healing hand rest upon him, may your lifegiving powers flow into every cell of his body and into the depths of his soul, cleansing, purifying, restoring him to wholeness and strength for love he shares for you.
Amen
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Re: I don't normally preach, but....
« Reply #24 on: Apr 4th, 2005, 11:18pm » |
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Linda
My thoughts and prayers are with you and Daniel at this time. Praying all works out for the both of you. Love, BarbG
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