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"Real Love"
« on: Feb 2nd, 2005, 11:27pm » |
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I was watching some chick flicks the other night - all by myself.
I was wondering - do people really LOVE like they do in the movies??
Do romantic things really happen to people like they do in the movies? What's happened to you...?
Do people really feel that way? In the movies.. people do some strange and outrageous things for "love". What's the biggest thing you've done for "love"?
I think that if some of the things in the movies happened to me - I wouldn't know what to do.
If "real" love is like in the movies........... Ramon and I need to have a little chat! 
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Biggest thing I have done?
I spent every penny I had to fly someone across the country to live with me when I was barely making ends meet. I had known her for one month.
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Re: "Real Love"
« Reply #2 on: Feb 2nd, 2005, 11:38pm » |
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Did it work out???
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Well, in the movies it's more like "burning" love....
It's only happened once, but for me it's like hot embers.... like home - somewhere you want to be, where you are truly happy.
What have I done for love? Nothing unusual... just put my heart and myself on the line.
What would I do? Probably anything....
If it's real, then things aren't sacrifices....
I'd live in a thatched hut with no running water....
I'd move across the country...
Yeah, if I love someone and that person loves me back.... well, I'm a romantic... ya get the idea....
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For a while, lol.  The relationship was doomed, but it was an experience I don't regret, and it was a person I won't forget.
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Re: "Real Love"
« Reply #5 on: Feb 2nd, 2005, 11:41pm » |
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Well... you always hear "I'd do anything for real love."
But who has actually HAD to do something really outrageous for love.....
and if it was real - would you HAVE to do something outrageous to get it??
I think too damned much
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Re: "Real Love"
« Reply #6 on: Feb 2nd, 2005, 11:44pm » |
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LOL>.Woobs...........Real love is what YOU need it to be.....
Remember when you and Ramon were dating?? Remember that feeling of always wanting to be with him?? Now, after years, and years... and YEARS(grumbling now)....well, YA JUST WISH HED GO THE HELL AWAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY FOR AWHILE!?
The love is the first part.........the other is the mellowing over years.....and you know a lot of this is tongue in cheek....
Some couples are quite demonstrative(ie:GET A ROOM!)
Some couples are a great team, moving fluidly thru life, taking turns with the ball........
I doubt it can be quite as intense all the time like you'd see in a Danielle Steelle made-for-TV.....STOP watching those movies!!!
Oh, Lord.......RAMON! Kiss her...tell her ya love her.bring her something special, wrapped with a big red bow......
Woobs..... he's still there, each and every night. That is love....
Somebody, bring me some kleenex??
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on Feb 2nd, 2005, 11:41pm, john_d wrote:... it was an experience I don't regret, and it was a person I won't forget.
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then it was worth it....
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Re: "Real Love"
« Reply #8 on: Feb 2nd, 2005, 11:54pm » |
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on Feb 2nd, 2005, 11:27pm, Woobie wrote:| What's the biggest thing you've done for "love"? |
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Split at 3:00am off a waterbed without waking her.
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Re: "Real Love"
« Reply #9 on: Feb 3rd, 2005, 12:05am » |
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From what I've heard....Den and Georgia have QUITE a "love" story. One of the 'old timers' around here can share the story because I've only heard it second hand and talked to Georgia about it once or twice!!! 
As for me...I don't think I've experienced that 'crazy love' like they have on tv. I know I've experienced feelings of true love, but they are very hard to describe. Right now, I honestly feel great love for my ex-boyfriend even though now we are just best friends. It is simply because of how he's shown me that he would do anything for me when I needed it...and I am the same way for him. We aren't together anymore, but we are closer than we ever were when we WERE together.
Some people show and feel that strong love in a physical way. I think I personally get more emotionally attached. When I feel that emotional "bond," that's when the love comes into play. When I know we're there for each other through thick and thin...no matter what....that means a great deal to me. Attraction is important, but not the *key*...at least IMHO!!!
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Re: "Real Love"
« Reply #10 on: Feb 3rd, 2005, 12:07am » |
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All that stuff in the movies is just for fun. (Not that that is bad. )
Real love is what I have seen with my Dad taking care of Mom in the last couple of years as her Parkinsons is really starting to kick in, or what Linda has done for me when my head is really giving me fits.
Biggest thing I have done is to drive 21 hours one way just to spend one evening with her, and then drive back the next day. It was worth it, and still is!
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on Feb 3rd, 2005, 12:07am, Callico_Kid wrote:
Biggest thing I have done is to drive 21 hours one way just to spend one evening with her, and then drive back the next day. It was worth it, and still is!
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Re: "Real Love"
« Reply #12 on: Feb 3rd, 2005, 12:13am » |
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Cathy and Jerry - you two are soooooooo right.
I guess what I'm meaning is REAL ROMANCE.
Love and Romance are two separate things.. I have to keep reminding myself of that.
I need to stop watching Love Actually, City of ANgels, Sleepless in Seattle, Sex and the City, Titanic, and all the mushy shit....... huh??
Life just gets too damned complicated... and sometimes you just need to get ............. uh......... nevermind.
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on Feb 3rd, 2005, 12:13am, Woobie wrote:
Life just gets too damned complicated... and sometimes you just need to get ............. uh......... nevermind.
LMAO
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o m g... . 
on Feb 3rd, 2005, 12:13am, Woobie wrote:
I need to stop watching Love Actually, City of ANgels, Sleepless in Seattle, Sex and the City, Titanic, and all the mushy shit....... huh??
LMAO
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well, life without satc, sleepless, love actually? what kind of life is that? LOL
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Re: "Real Love"
« Reply #14 on: Feb 3rd, 2005, 12:17am » |
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Biggest thing I ever did for love?
I was dating a guy who I was (then) COMPLETELY in love with...he told me he had fallen in love with another girl...so.........
I let him go...
15 years later THEY are now married and VERY happy...
...and I don't regret my decision one bit.
It was the right thing to do...
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Re: "Real Love"
« Reply #15 on: Feb 3rd, 2005, 12:20am » |
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you bet, i love my wife so much i cry sometimes because
i love her so much. she is my best friend. she sits and
reads stuff on the board with me. if she has $1.00 she
will give me 75 cents. i am really blessed. when we
got married in 2001 i wanted to go to amsterdam 2002
she had no problem. i have to say she is not the
jealous type. if any lady called me from this MB
she has no problem. im so lucky and blessed
thats why i never would cheat on her no matter what.
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on Feb 3rd, 2005, 12:20am, eddie wrote:you bet, i love my wife so much i cry sometimes because
i love her so much. she is my best friend. she sits and
reads stuff on the board with me. if she has $1.00 she
will give me 75 cents. i am really blessed. when we
got married in 2001 i wanted to go to amsterdam 2002
she had no problem. i have to say she is not the
jealous type. if any lady called me from this MB
she has no problem. im so lucky and blessed
thats why i never would cheat on her no matter what.
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thanks for making me insanely jealous eddie, dang. 
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Re: "Real Love"
« Reply #17 on: Feb 3rd, 2005, 12:40am » |
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Real love is never found in the movies
They sometimes get close, but usually just go for the "new" love feeling and gloss over the "ever after"
Love is putting up with his stinky feet and him farting in bed
He puts up with panic attacks about hair, make-up and bad outfits
Love will make you care for him/ her when they are sick-and really annoying...
Love will go start the car for you when its 40 below
Love will drive 10 miles to town to get ice cream
Love will tell you you look beautiful even when the 40 extra pounds makes you doubt it
Love will cry when you have his babies
Love will hold you when you cry while watching those silly chick flicks.
Love will work hard to make a home
Love will drive you crazy
Love will make you doubt
Love will break your heart...more than once
But if you stick with it, it's usually worth it, even when you want to kill him....
They get comfortable/lazy and sometimes need to be reminded. Be specific, leave notes and ideas if you have too...
Danielle
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The biggest thing i've done for love...well the coldest was crawling naked into bed with my hubby to save his life (hahaha-not like that) His truck heater had died and it was -30 and there was nothing open at 3am so he could stop and warm up or call.(no cell phone) He arrived at the patio doors because he couldn't unbend his hands to use the keys for the front door. Deep into hypothermia, (he had stopped shivering)I undressed him, got him in bed and proceeded to use my body heat to unthaw him. He warmed up enough to start shivering again and then continued that for about two hours. Early the next morning he finally fell asleep, warm, and I headed for the HOT shower.
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Re: "Real Love"
« Reply #18 on: Feb 3rd, 2005, 1:25am » |
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Well it seems to me that alot of this advice is sort of repeating itself. If a person is looking for that big magical moment or huge ah Ha moment, they may be missing the most important stuff. The Biggest thing you can do in a relationship for love is to try to do the daily little things consistently. I say this because the newness wares off of any relationship and what you have left is a friendship with the person you love, and you have something important that you can count on, and someone who can count on you......always there. Two old people taking a walk, sitting on a porch swing, taking care of one another, That's true love. If you can throw in some big romantic gushy stuff every now and then that's just that much better!!!
Whatever looks like greener grass is usually found to be astroturf, (not real at all).
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Re: "Real Love"
« Reply #19 on: Feb 3rd, 2005, 1:32am » |
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on Feb 3rd, 2005, 1:25am, K-9 wrote:| If you can throw in some big romantic gushy stuff every now and then that's just that much better!!! |
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that's all i'm sayin...............
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Re: "Real Love"
« Reply #20 on: Feb 3rd, 2005, 2:36am » |
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What's the biggest thing I ever did for Love?
Lots of things but the most recent is to rent out my house/leave everything and everybody I know and love and move to a God-for-saken city called Spokane, Wa.
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Tina I have a feeling that you are feeling unappreciated right now. Let Ramon read what Cathi has said here.
And Ramon?????? Hon you don't have to spend $$$ on her...just let her know you love her in little ways like leaving a note on her pillow or in her lunch. One rose is much more special than a dozen. Turn on a CD and dance with her. Take the kids out for pizza so she can have some time for herself. Tell her you don't know what the hell you'd do without her. Say that in front of her to your friends or your family.
Woobie, Real love is the everyday stuff. The feelings like Clark showed when he said ENOUGH! Cat cannot come out and play anymore because she was so very ill. (Now there is a man who loves his wife)
The dramatic stuff if it happens at all....only usually happens at the start of a romance. Rarely lasts.
Oh thanks...you had to get me started didn't you? LMAO!
Tina you ARE loved! Linda
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Re: "Real Love"
« Reply #21 on: Feb 3rd, 2005, 3:08am » |
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cook, clean, wash clothes dishes and hold her for no
reason. like Linda said leave a note just to say i love
you baby. say im sorry when im wrong or not . i can go
on and on. she puts up with me. hell i have even gone
to the store and got her female products. i would do
anything for my wife. i will show her everyday of my
life cause she is there for me. one of my sayings
is " it takes a good woman to make a good man and
it takes a good man to make a good family" together
is the way to make this happen!!! but my family here
is our family too. all this is from my heart.
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Re: "Real Love"
« Reply #22 on: Feb 3rd, 2005, 3:52am » |
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I'm in love... romantic, stupid, do anything love. It does happen.
I'm always trying to do idiotic romantic things, just to show her that she's the only thing on my mind. I get a tremendous kick out of it, and we both feed off that energy. Our sex life is incredible and it has only gotten better over time, not boring.
Do anything? I'm about to have sparm extracted from my post-vasectomy testicles and spend about $20,000 on IVF so we can make a baby together (God willing), so I'd say that's right up there in the 'anything' category. 
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Re: "Real Love"
« Reply #23 on: Feb 3rd, 2005, 4:54am » |
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Many moons ago, when I was law enforcement patrolman stationed in Japan, I pulled my wife over and gave her a ticket. The ticket had I LOVE YOU written in big red letters on it. I've snuck into my wife's office while she was out to lunch and left cards or flowers on her desk. I send her short little e-mails while she's at work saying I love you. I've driven 15 miles round trip just to go into town and get her a Vanilla Dr. Pepper from Sonic. I've cared for her and cleaned up after her when she's been sick. Breakfast in bed on no particularly special day - just 'cause. I'm always doing stuff like that. And she does it for me as well.
She is my supporter. She keeps me from pounding my head on the wall or with my fist during an attack. She tries to provide a distraction from the pain. She fetches my trex injection stuff. She fills the syringes when I am too far gone to do it myself. Even though she is deathly afraid of needles, she let me teach her how to give me a shot and she has had to give me a couple. She rubs my head and neck after an attack. She won't let me get down on myself. She kicks me in the rear end if I do get too far down and gets me going again.
We are more in love now than when we first got married. She is first and foremost my best friend in the whole world. We talk about anything and everything. We complete each others sentences and a lot of times we don't have to speak at all. We just know what the other is thinking (this drives the kids nuts). We trust each other implicitly and have never done anything to cause the other to doubt that.
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Re: "Real Love"
« Reply #24 on: Feb 3rd, 2005, 5:36am » |
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UH OH  LMAO
First = let me say that you all are awesome...
but - I think this whole thing was misinterpreted.. and before Ramon reads this and gets pissed at me... (LMAO!!  ) ........this wasn't about ME and HIM.... this was just a general question - brought up by me watching chick flicks.
I was just wondering if people really did the things they do in movies..........
I know what REAL love is........ and I have it. Ramon is good to me. There may not be "romance" per say (like in the movies)- but the things he does to show me he loves me are not un-noticed...
I guess I just wanted to know if other REAL people do these things........... and I guess the answer is YES. And that's really cool.
The original question - what have you done for love?
BUT - I have to say that some of the replies remind me of why I got married in the first place... and I needed that too.
Love you guys
tina
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