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sandie99
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Is my mum fooling me?
« on: Jan 31st, 2005, 12:48pm » |
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Hi everyone...
I need your help and advice concerning my mother. Here's the story.
My mum is about to retire within a month and all her 8 siblings are worried about her. You know, how she's going to take it.
She is what one could call a workaholic. A big one. The office hours are 8am to 4pm, but hers are 7am to 8pm and I'm not kidding!
Year ago mum was clearly worried about retiring but now she seems to be fine about it. She told me about her plans... To brush up her language skills (fluent in Finnish, Swedish, English, German, good at Spanish & French), travel, take care of the garden properly and arrange all the photographs.
The reason I turn to you is that my mum can be very convincing when she says she's fine. Now I wonder that is she just fooling me...? You know, will she cope without having the crazy schedule and lots of colleagues who rely on her expertese?
I didn't worry about her until lately. She is in perfect health, she turns 61 in May but looks more like 45... After all, she is the only parent I have left! My dad died in 1997.
So, is she fooling me? Should I worry about her?
Your thoughts would be appreciated.
May you all be PF,
Sandie
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Re: Is my mum fooling me?
« Reply #1 on: Jan 31st, 2005, 12:53pm » |
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You wont really know how she will handle it until she actually retires, sandie. Some people do fine and put all their former work energy into living and doing all the things they couldn't when they worked. Just keep an eye on her. This is a good time for the 2 of you to spend time together also...love, nani
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Re: Is my mum fooling me?
« Reply #2 on: Jan 31st, 2005, 1:04pm » |
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It sounds to me like she deserves to retire. If she's healthy and feeling young, she'll be able to enjoy much better. I wouldn't worry about it, she will find things to do. Congrats going out to her.
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« Reply #3 on: Jan 31st, 2005, 1:23pm » |
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It sounds like she has a plan for keeping busy during retirement... things to look forward to...
The happiest retirees I know all have something to look forward to... something that energizes them - my dad teaches at the literacy center - my best friend's dad travels, takes classes at the university, and attends lunches at the senior center....
I think she'll be okay... just keep in touch and look for behavior or personality changes.
jmho,
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Re: Is my mum fooling me?
« Reply #4 on: Jan 31st, 2005, 1:42pm » |
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My folks retired about 5 years ago. They are still very active, healthy people. The biggest thing they worried about was feeling useless.
They both went out and got PT jobs that allowed them the opportunity to feel useful, started doing volunteer work, and spent the time they wanted doing the things that made them happy. Mom does volunteer work at a local hospital in the preemie section. Dad does tax prep counseling at the senior center. Mom works a couple of days a week at a Hilton Gift Shop. They are nearly 80 and still have a full active life. They travel, go to the theatre, all kinds of stuff.
Retiring is only a problem if the retiree retires from life as well as their job.
Of course - my folks did finally give up adventure sports like white water rafting. But not until they were into their mid 70's. Mom got very upset when she was told that she was too old to cliff dive.
Just stay aware of what your Mom is up to and her state of mind. If she remains active - she'll be fine.
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Re: Is my mum fooling me?
« Reply #5 on: Jan 31st, 2005, 2:15pm » |
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Find her a male/friend to do things with when you're busy doing your life!!!
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Re: Is my mum fooling me?
« Reply #6 on: Jan 31st, 2005, 7:26pm » |
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OHHH, Sandie... methinks we share a mom! Mine retired at 70.she was the dept head, workaholic, LOVED her job.but it was time. Now, 10 yrs later, she is the darling of the Volunteers at the local Hospital, takes every trip the Senior center takes, has Bunko groups, exercise classes.and a HIGHLY organized calendar to keep her straight....she has been happy and fulfilled, carved her name in this community she never knew till she retired and, at 80, always has a sparkle in her eye.
Now, I am watching her closely, she is quite ill and I am not ready to lose her.....
I think, Sandie, your mom knows she has other plans for her life.........it's time for her to get out and do them.But, know what? It doesnt matter if she has a day or 100 years.....all YOU have to do is love her each and every day. And, that's easy.
Best wishes to Sandie's Mom for a happy, fulfilling retirement 
Cathi
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