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helpless23
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Our new meaning of Christmas...
« on: Dec 6th, 2004, 8:53am » |
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Hi all,
Well, this our first year that we are actually going to celebrate Christmas for what it's always been intended to be, depending on your beliefs, mine is the birth of Christ.
It's really sad, probably because the holidays have drawn in so close and so fast since Christopher passed away. It's been over a month already.
We aren't going to have a tree, just a wreath - no lights outside - it's just not the same. And Christopher helped us last year put everything up - even our new reindeer for the lawn.
The kids have no lists this year, they aren't asking for anything, they just want their brother back.
So this year, we are celebrating Christmas for what it really is (like I said, depending on your beliefs --no offense to anyone intended).
I know everyone keeps saying that it will get easier as time goes on, but it seems like it's just getting harder each day... I know, the holidays being so close don't help. I can't wait until 2005 and this horrible year is over. 2004 has been the worst year in our entire lives and I will be singing and drinking it out on New Year's Eve singing "Good Riddance 2004".
I wish I could just erase it.
To all of you who need prayers and vibes, mine are silently said and sent -- I try to keep up with the board, but I haven't been much into posting - so vibes and prayers to my 2nd family and their loved ones.
Thanks for all your support, everyone.
Hope to see you in VA on the 28th. Chuck, you better be there. You owe me quite a few hugs!
Love you all,
Toni
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Re: Our new meaning of Christmas...
« Reply #1 on: Dec 6th, 2004, 8:59am » |
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Just read your post and I just want to say, God bless you and your family and may the good lord touch your hearts with his love at this time. May each day of the new year bring you some peace and joy.
Merry Christmas and a very very Happy New Year
Ruth
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« Reply #2 on: Dec 6th, 2004, 9:50am » |
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Oh Toni - I'm sorry. Holidays are tough. Perhaps this year you and the family could do something good in Chris' name. Like Toys for Tots, adopt a needy family, I don't know - something like that. Doing good feels good and God knows you could use some feeling good. Also it's a way to honor his memory as a loving, giving person. Just a thought... 
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« Reply #3 on: Dec 6th, 2004, 9:56am » |
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Toni,
I don't really know you but my heart goes out to you, I feel your pain and will be saying prayers for better days to come your way. Nani had some great ideas, you should think about them. God bless!!!
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« Reply #4 on: Dec 6th, 2004, 10:14am » |
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Toni,
Wishing you a healthy, happy, and joyous Christmas season and a better New Year.
TomM
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« Reply #5 on: Dec 6th, 2004, 10:24am » |
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Hi Toni,
Again, I am truly sorry for your loss. I don't think you ever "get over" it, but you do learn to live with it. I pray that with the new year comes an easing of your burdens. Don't let your grief for Chris blind you to the needs of the rest of your family. I have seen families fall apart after such a tragedy for just this reason. The kids need to see that there is a coming to terms with a loss so they can cope with them later in their lives. Lots of prayers being said and lots of love being sent from this family to yours. May God keep you and comfort you all through this Christmas season.
Mike
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« Reply #6 on: Dec 6th, 2004, 12:05pm » |
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I don't know you either, but I think Nani has a lot of great ideas and I think that what you are doing on Christmas is a great idea. The true meaning of Christmas has gotten lost in all of the presents and greed.
The holidays are tough and I am praying that you get some relief in 2005. My vibes and prayers are definitely with you and your family. May God ease your pain.
~Kim
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« Reply #7 on: Dec 6th, 2004, 7:24pm » |
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Toni - check your emails hon!
Hugs
Carol
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« Reply #8 on: Dec 6th, 2004, 8:06pm » |
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I hear ya Toni ~~ I haven't had a great year myself... Having to worry about my son. I wish I could hire your son to watch over mine do you think we could do that. I am having the worse day today. Don't know if its mental-pause...(what my daughter calls it) or a case of the old fashioned blues. Your post made me cry. I cant imagine the void your heart feels. I think of you guys often. God bless you and keep you and make these empty holidays go by swiftly... better days ahead Toni better days ahead... Love to you Ree
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« Reply #9 on: Dec 6th, 2004, 8:16pm » |
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I really don't have much words of comfort for you - just do what is best for you and your family but I do have to agree with Gator/Mike - the rest of your kids need you still. They are looking to you and how you are dealing and taking cues from you. I don't know you well, but I have been in a similar situation and it is horrendous to deal but it has been 4 years now for my family and we can look back and smile again. That time will come for you and your family, like you said, it has only been 1 month.
Love to you and yours!
Karen
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