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And I thought I felt helpless in battling CH....
« on: Nov 30th, 2004, 8:52am » |
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I have a friend who was here for quite awhile last night who is on a road to destruction due to addiction to Methamphetamine. This was a kid from my old youth group where I played guitar on the worship team a few years ago before I quit going. I've known him for a long time and like a few mutual friends, have tried to talk some sense into him.
He has been by the past two nights in a condition they call 'spun out' (he made as much sense in his talking as a severely drunk individual.) His brother was shot to death a couple of years back, and his younger sister is messed up from a motorcycle accident in which he was the driver. She was a very young mother, and now is at high risk for brain hemorrage and in bad condition. His family blames him for all the ills, so it's like he has convinced himself that life isn't worth living.
He even had a stroke from doing speed and, it's just a mess and it has been tearing me up all night because I don't know what to do and feel so fucking helpless. All I can think to do is call a chemical dependency counselor and try to get some advice. I'm trying to talk him into going into rehab, but like they say - you can lead a horse to water but....
Peace,
Carl D
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« Reply #1 on: Nov 30th, 2004, 8:55am » |
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Man, sometimes the best you can do is to take a step back, Carl. Your buddy has seriously fucked up his life, and he did it on his own. Fixing it is much the same: The only one who can fix it is him, if/when he decides to do so. As a friend, the best you can do is to be there to help him pick up the pieces, if that's what he chooses to do. It's a detached sort of love... He's the one who jumped into the ocean. So far, he has resisted your outstretched hand. It's up to him to swim back to the boat. Or not. 
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« Reply #2 on: Nov 30th, 2004, 9:06am » |
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I know I can't force it on him and you're right Frank, he did choose his own path. I just had one friend laid to rest, and already have too many in the ground. I guess I'm just afraid that if someone doesn't intervene, he will be next. I don't know. This just sucks.
Sorry to post this here, but it's been eating at me since he left. Got too much shit on my mind and that combined with the fricken chronic pain isn't letting me sleep.
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Carl D
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Re: And I thought I felt helpless in battling CH..
« Reply #3 on: Nov 30th, 2004, 9:18am » |
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Carl, one of the hardest thing you'll ever have to do is become detached (with love) from this situation. Meth addiction robs you of your sanity, your health and eventually your soul. Unfortunately, no one can help your friend but him. Let him know that if he should decide to get help, you will support him in that choice. Let him know where help is available. Let him know that he is worth the effort. That is all you can do. It's the hardest part, realizing that you can't do it for him. I went through this with my daughter and it's very hard. But it's do-able. Pray for him and pray for the strength to become detached. I'll pray for both of you. 
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« Reply #4 on: Nov 30th, 2004, 9:27am » |
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Thanks Nan. That's probably the only I really can do is pray. That and next time I see him, I am going to make one final plea for him to get help and then will step out of the situation. I guess that really is all I can do.
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Carl D
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