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Do you like yourself ?
« on: Nov 28th, 2004, 3:15pm » |
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Jus curious how others felt.....cuz sometimes I don't (like myself) and it gets to be a depressing issue for a while and then.....I snap out of it a while. Thoughts of the person I wish I was Pam
Jus stupid shit.......but it gets too me at times and wonder if it was NORMAL ?? 
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Re: Do you like yourself ?
« Reply #1 on: Nov 28th, 2004, 3:25pm » |
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Don't know if its "normal" Pam but I do it too! Its one of those things I think about when I can't sleep at night or I'm driving.. anything where I have too much time to think about it and depress myself into a coma nearly. Like you the only thing to snap myself out of it is thoughts of how to improve myself.. which I'll be honest and admit I never stick too
Now I'm depressed again!
I'll be a better person one day... I hope!
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« Reply #2 on: Nov 28th, 2004, 3:30pm » |
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not really, but I do more than I did 5 years ago, and 20 years ago I really hated myself. Now it's just modest and non-constant dislike and I am way, way too hard on myself over the stupidest shit. I tend to think about things I did and be hard on myself from time to time. I don't know why I am glad it is changing, but I am not sure if it is just lower standards with age or if I am getting better about it 
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Re: Do you like yourself ?
« Reply #3 on: Nov 28th, 2004, 3:34pm » |
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No it's not stupid. I can't say I don't like myself but I do have low self esteem, I'm a pessamist and I'm also a bit of an introvert. Stubborn and bull headed too. I'll make a good old man someday bitching at the neighborhood kids.
I think it may be that we are just getting older and different things bother us from time to time. A while back I totally stressed out about dying. That lasted a couple of weeks and now I'm fine.
This is a normal thing in my opinion.
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Re: Do you like yourself ?
« Reply #4 on: Nov 28th, 2004, 3:35pm » |
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For a very long time I didn't like myself one bit.
NOW I am happy with who and what I am...sure I could lose a few pounds, could keep a cleaner house, could make a little more money...but all in all I am one happy camper.
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Re: Do you like yourself ?
« Reply #5 on: Nov 28th, 2004, 3:46pm » |
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I tend to think about everything I said or did in public now worse then ever even amungst my bestest friends and sort of 'rate myself' and wish I'd said more or less.....or did or didn't do this or that.......and I really get goin when my brain cuts loose on everything in the past and gets on a roll about shit YEARS ago. I guess I figure I did POORLY in my own minds eye so I depress myself....sometimes it is a bad depression too and I don't do anything 'THAT' bad tho. Am I my worst enemy Pam
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« Reply #6 on: Nov 28th, 2004, 4:00pm » |
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Thats funny Cootie, cause I think your an amazing person and I don't even know you that well! I do like myself but the CH sure doesn't and I often do the "Why me thing" when I am getting hit days on end. I hate to hear you guys say that about yourself because you have to be a very special people to be on these boards helping people like me. So please don't feel that way, I do often wish I could chop off my head!!! Bless all your wonderful hearts!
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« Reply #7 on: Nov 28th, 2004, 5:10pm » |
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Sometimes I do
Sometimes I don't
but what the hell I am all I got. And all I know I can depend on (see me in a dark mood!  )
nuff said!
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« Reply #8 on: Nov 28th, 2004, 5:33pm » |
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Nope, don't like me very much. I don't like my appearance, my teeth, my nose is crooked (broken 2 times), thin lips, fat body. HOWEVER, I care about others and will protect my family and friends to the death. I won't put up with anyone saying or doing something to hurt a friend or family member but you can attack me and I will agree with everything you say. I will protect all around me and give great advice to others about how to "fix" them, but can't seem to fix myself. I have never been a confident or outgoing, always been pretty quiet until I get to know someone and figure out that they don't care about the outside, it's the inside that counts.
I believe Dr Phil to be a complete idiot but he was right about 1 thing - he says we have defining moments in our lives - here is mine: Went to a college party with some friends and we were all drinking and having a great time, meeting new people and just chatting with them. There was a guy that kept talking to me and I wondered why he kept talking to me because he was very attractive guy. He kept seeking me out throughout the night, making me feel like quite the good looking girl. Well, we were getting ready to leave and he said he wanted to talk to me before I left, so I go out to talk to him and we talk for a few minutes then he tells me I have a beautiful smile. Oh man, I felt like I was floating on a cloud. NOBODY ever had told me I had a pretty smile. I say "Thank you" all the while blushing like an idiot. I hear lots of laughter and then he says, "Thanks you just won me $50 and get some braces." I turn around and all these guys are standing at the side of the house laughing. Come to find out I was the ugliest of the girls at the party and was the butt of a huge bet of who could find the ugliest girl at the party. There is a name for this type of bet but I can't think of it at this time. I still cry when I think of this and remember just wanting to die. This was 10 years ago and still remember the look of disgust on his face. Why do people find humor in other people's pain? I will never understand this and I swore to God that night I would NEVER do or say anything before thinking about it first. Such pain can be inflicted with words. The old phrase "Sticks and Stones may break my bones but words shall never hurt me" is a bunch of shit in my book. I will never in my entire life forget that moment in my life. I can tell you how the air smelled, the cologne he was wearing, the clothes he had on, the clothes I had on. Seered in my brain for all time. I have never told this story to ANYONE before - thought maybe it would help me to get it out there. Thanks for reading.
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Re: Do you like yourself ?
« Reply #9 on: Nov 28th, 2004, 5:39pm » |
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Well, I would have to answer this yes, I love myself, not in a egotistical way, but I am happy. Even though like most there are some things I would change in my apperance, weight, hieght I am only 5 foot 6. I would try not to be such a procrastinator. Also one last thing, the 100mg of Zoloft help. LOL 
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« Reply #10 on: Nov 28th, 2004, 5:41pm » |
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cschick, I think your really BEAUTIFUL!!!!
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« Reply #11 on: Nov 28th, 2004, 5:44pm » |
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cs, I had a similar experience in the 8th grade. I can hardly believe an adult would behave in such a childish and harmful way- HE is ugly; truly, deeply ugly. 
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Re: Do you like yourself ?
« Reply #12 on: Nov 28th, 2004, 5:45pm » |
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I think it's human nature to dislike some of the things we do and the way we handle things. It's one of the most important factors in developing ourselves...why change or grow at all if we think we're perfect. We can also hurt ourselves by being too critical and judgemental of ourselves. Everyday, in every situation, we must look hard at our behavior. We have to look objectively-like an outsider. Critique what could be better and give ourselves the credit we so often deserve, as well. So- do I like myself? Mostly, I do- but there's lots of room for improvement...
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« Reply #13 on: Nov 28th, 2004, 5:49pm » |
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on Nov 28th, 2004, 5:33pm, cschick wrote:| I have never told this story to ANYONE before - thought maybe it would help me to get it out there. Thanks for reading. |
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Thank you,
now where is the M/F, got a gator to hang on his nether regions! 
P.S. I ain't but 5'6", but I cheat 
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Re: Do you like yourself ?
« Reply #14 on: Nov 28th, 2004, 5:58pm » |
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Oh wow cschick.....now that sort of stuff would of DEVASTED me......I am stronger willed then minded. I never trusted guys that asked me out or acted interested.....always felt there was an alterior motive like what happen'd to you.....my freinds thought I was nuts being that way. Had a rich guy that owned a jewlry store and drove a new Lotus get on his knees and ask me out.....I said NO.....my friends just stood there with there mouths hanging open. He was out of my league and I did not want to go there so spared myself before anything got started. Had a guy gteet me one nite in a bar as I walked in telling me I was gorgeous and he acted 'star struck' as I walked past him. I just smiled and felt VERY impressed just as I heard him say it again behind me and I glanced around and he was pulling the exact SAME routine on a real gross ugly fat chick. I never took compliments well after that.......I think there lieing jus to be nice or get in good with me or some motive. Makes it hard when you have strange qorks in life like that......I am way too judgementa of myself in every detail. And I worry to much of how I interacted when out the nite before.....I get way too depressed way too easy. Then I begin to reminiss the past.....I digress from there. It's been a blue day and I needed to talk......thanks for listening. You've done the body good Pam (still depressed but feeling better)
Why can't we be who we want to be.......or is that even possible ? Miss perfect in every way would be nice.
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« Reply #15 on: Nov 28th, 2004, 6:08pm » |
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Wow, that felt good to get that all out and Pam I am finally starting to learn as I get older that I am a truly GOOD person. I care about others and see the beauty inside which is so much more important than the outside. I refuse to judge people on the outside appearance which is why I love this website. It took me a long time to get myself to post a picture of myself but I DID IT! It didn't matter if people found me attractive on the outside, all that matters is that I have found a bunch of people just like me that understand and feel for what I am going through. This has been a very emotional day for me and I am so glad to have been here today. Gave me a lot to think about!
Karen
ps I thought about this before I typed it but I decided if I could find that little not a very nice person that did that to me I would take you up on the gator on the balls thing JIMBO! LOVE IT!
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Re: Do you like yourself ?
« Reply #16 on: Nov 28th, 2004, 6:23pm » |
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Not right at the moment - got alot of personal BS going on in my life.
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Re: Do you like yourself ?
« Reply #17 on: Nov 28th, 2004, 6:26pm » |
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Karen 
Come over here for a week hon, you'll be beating them off with a stick!
That is a typical immature pack male thing to do.. he would never have done it if not for trying to look big in front of his friends. I can understand how much it hurt though, it hurt me reading it for you and left me sitting here feeling murderous.
I have never in my life done anything that mean but I have done mean things.
I can remeber every horrible thing I have done with great shame and they haunt me.
I hope your persecutor never sleeps again for that one
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« Reply #18 on: Nov 28th, 2004, 6:34pm » |
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to you John. I hope things get better for you soon!
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« Reply #19 on: Nov 28th, 2004, 6:36pm » |
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Who you are and what you do can be differant things.
For the most part I like who I am but dont always like what I do. If I dont like what I did, then I try to amend it and I like that about myself.
I like myself loooong time.
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Re: Do you like yourself ?
« Reply #20 on: Nov 28th, 2004, 7:19pm » |
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There is always room for improvement ! I like mayself, but somethings I do I hate and try to improve myself. I think the older we get, the more regrets we have and the more we want to improve.
I think its natural. Night time is a time to think and thats when we see things a little clearer.
When I get tired of beating myself up at night I take a sleeping pill LOL! All in all I like me!
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Re: Do you like yourself ?
« Reply #21 on: Nov 28th, 2004, 8:56pm » |
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No I don't. I like fishing though.
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Re: Do you like yourself ?
« Reply #22 on: Nov 28th, 2004, 9:02pm » |
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on Nov 28th, 2004, 3:46pm, cootie wrote:| I tend to think about everything I said or did in public now worse then ever even amungst my bestest friends and sort of 'rate myself' and wish I'd said more or less.....or did or didn't do this or that....... |
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I know this won't help because Don said it but, I gotta agree with him. Then again, his reply was short enough so that I read it.
Quote:Who you are and what you do can be differant things.
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Doing it the way you want to do it from now on will in time erase the thoughts that linger and bother and you will become the person you want and like to be.
Believe me... I had LOTS of feelings that you described so well. Everyday I still have more, I even edit my posts to say things better than I could have. In life, we don't get that chance it seems but the chance to amend comes around if you are receptive to when it occurs. Eventually, things that are done right are dwelled upon more, and knowing you can overcome and the chance to do so will happen, your actions and words are a powerful part in changing your thoughts of yourself.
Pammy, over 4700 posts here for you and not a one for you to regret have I read from you. Damn kiddo! Can't even express the enjoyment you've brought. You is soooooo good. And I've learned from you there's different ways of spellin'
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Re: Do you like yourself ?
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