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My lost and missing son is now in Jail...
« on: Nov 19th, 2004, 3:23pm » |
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I have no idea. They have held him for a couple of days and haven't told him why he is charged. This may be the best thing that has happened to him. My husband and I have worked with prison ministry for over 8 years now and are very familiar with the facility he is in right now. That gives us some comfort. I just pray that the Lord uses this to wake him up and make him see what a looser he is fastly becomming.
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« Reply #1 on: Nov 19th, 2004, 3:31pm » |
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I once spent three days in county jail as a teen, for being drunk and disorderly, and for battery. (I was fighting. I didn't start the fight, but I was winning with great zeal!) I phoned my dad and he just laughed at me. So I spent three days being treated like a criminal, and that was enough to convince me that I never wanted to go back to jail ever again.
I wish your whole family, including your son, all the best, Karla. 
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« Reply #2 on: Nov 19th, 2004, 4:29pm » |
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on Nov 19th, 2004, 3:23pm, Karla wrote:I have no idea. They have held him for a couple of days and haven't told him why he is charged. This may be the best thing that has happened to him. My husband and I have worked with prison ministry for over 8 years now and are very familiar with the facility he is in right now. That gives us some comfort. I just pray that the Lord uses this to wake him up and make him see what a looser he is fastly becomming.
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Who knows, maybe he will be scared straight. But when jails hold people for days with no charges, everyone in society should be scared. You live in North Korea, Karla??
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« Reply #3 on: Nov 19th, 2004, 4:34pm » |
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I believe that in most states, if not all states, they are allowed to hold anyone for 72 hours without any charges being formally brought on. "Terrorists" they can hold indefinately.
Karla, Since he's already there, I hope it does him some good.
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on Nov 19th, 2004, 4:34pm, unsolved1 wrote:I believe that in most states, if not all states, they are allowed to hold anyone for 72 hours without any charges being formally brought on. "Terrorists" they can hold indefinately.
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It's true that most states allow 72 hours before formal charges are filed - but the arrest report should give a reason why someone's kid is in jail, and that information should be made available to a family so that counsel can be obtained, etc.
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Re: My lost and missing son is now in Jail...
« Reply #5 on: Nov 19th, 2004, 4:49pm » |
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on Nov 19th, 2004, 4:46pm, floridian wrote:
It's true that most states allow 72 hours before formal charges are filed - but the arrest report should give a reason why someone's kid is in jail, and that information should be made available to a family so that counsel can be obtained, etc.
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Couldn't agree more. Parents should be able to pickup the phone and find out the charges or reason for detention.
The best of luck to your family and may your son find and fly the straight and narrow.
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« Reply #6 on: Nov 19th, 2004, 5:19pm » |
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Karla - this must be a very difficult time for you and your family. Any one of us that have raised kids can sure share your heartache.
Best of luck with getting it all sorted out and like the others have said, I agree - perhaps this will scare him straight.
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« Reply #7 on: Nov 19th, 2004, 5:32pm » |
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Well, I can sure feel for you, I have a son that has been in jail plenty and prison and is now in the State Mental Hospital.
I sure hope it is nothing serious but I can talk about serious if you need to.
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« Reply #8 on: Nov 19th, 2004, 5:39pm » |
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I will pray that he return to you with conscience, and thought. Sometimes WE have to hit bottom in order to get back up and shine... God Bless his young heart... love to you Ree
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« Reply #9 on: Nov 19th, 2004, 6:53pm » |
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to you and the family Karla. You should be able to get a police report w/ info. My daughter ended up in jail for 2 weeks on drug charges, and while it was a horrifying experience for her, that and the ensuing probation really turned her life around. She has been off drugs for a year and a half, and was just reduced to a less supervised probation. Hang in there, hun...it could be the best thing for him.
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Re: My lost and missing son is now in Jail...
« Reply #10 on: Nov 19th, 2004, 8:37pm » |
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I am not sure exactly what he did do or did not do but he is being charged with second degree sexual assualt. Max sentence 40 years. Class A Felony. All i am praying is that the truth comes out and that the truth be known weither guilty or innocient. Well he thought being in jail would be so much better than living at home at that he would have more freedom there. First thing I did was I laughed and asked how his freedom is.? He wants to come home. I reminded him of what we must wish for. I just hope and pray this experience wakes him up either way. I really just wish this were a bad dream and I could have my boy back but it looks like like he has decideded to go the long and hard road that is if he is guilty. We are all having a hard time, those of us that know him, believeing that he would do something like that.
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« Reply #11 on: Nov 19th, 2004, 8:50pm » |
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Sending a prayer. Hang tough Karla, been in your shoes.
Our son was charged with roughly the same thing, minimum 2years to life for sexual assault. He is now on probation practically for life and has to register where ever he is. But he and we got through it. It has made him better. Hope the boy turns the right way. All in Gods plan.
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Re: My lost and missing son is now in Jail...
« Reply #12 on: Nov 19th, 2004, 8:53pm » |
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A good lawyer.
Sorry I can't say more for you Karla. Stay strong.
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Re: My lost and missing son is now in Jail...
« Reply #13 on: Nov 19th, 2004, 9:13pm » |
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Thanks for the kind words or wisdom, and comfort. I thought things were bad before. I all do is cry now. I gotta see my shrink this is really effecting me emotionally and I feel like I am going to loose it.
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« Reply #14 on: Nov 19th, 2004, 9:27pm » |
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My heart goes out to you Karla. My son also ended up on the wrong side of the law. It turned out to be the best life lesson he ever learned. You and your family will be in my prayers
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« Reply #15 on: Nov 19th, 2004, 10:15pm » |
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When my daughter was in jail she would call (collect) everyday and beg us to bail her out. She would cry and tell me how horrible it was. I would tell her that I was sorry she was having a bad time, I loved her, and she was learning about living with consequences. Choosing to use drugs was a bad choice with a lot of very bad consequences. I would remind her that I loved her often and expressed my disappoint as well. I also told her that if we decided to help her out financially we would not consider bail, but could help with hiring a good attorney. I never told her that I felt she needed to be "punished" or "needed to learn her lesson". Sometimes I felt that way, but I never said it. I don't know if how I handled things helped her or not, but I knew that in order to really get better, she at least needed to know I was still rooting for her.
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« Reply #16 on: Nov 19th, 2004, 10:27pm » |
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I can't imagine what you are going through. Prayers to you and your family Karla.
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I'm getting real tired of reading about this kind of stuff in what's left of my country. You need a lawyer yesterday. It's too late now, no doubt but he shouldn't open his mouth for anything at all and I mean anything.
He needs to clam up. Become mute without a shyster.
All my thoughts are with you Karla.
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Prayers to you and your family Karla.
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All good advice, but Charlies is the most important!!
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« Reply #20 on: Nov 20th, 2004, 7:49am » |
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Oh Karla you poor thing,just try and get through each hour one by one, thats tough enough without trying to imagine too far ahead. I used to work in the prison service here, in a young offenders institution and I can only echo vehemently what Charlie and Jonny have said. He needs a lawyer, they shouldn't question him without one and its his right.
Keep us updated, We are all thinking of you
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« Reply #21 on: Nov 20th, 2004, 9:41am » |
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Karla,
See your doctor and get help coping, because this is just the beginning.
It has been a year ago this month sense the dectectives came to my door and told me my son was the prime suspect in a stabbing.
He was guilty and sick. It happened at our local store parking lot where I shop. I couldn't go there without getting sick to my stomach.
I love my son and I have stood by him, but I have also been angry and depressed about this and other things he has done in his life time.
I truly feel for you and no the long road ahead of you.
Take care of yourslef so you can be there for you son.
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« Reply #22 on: Nov 20th, 2004, 9:51am » |
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I haven't responded to this post because I don't know what to say. You are in my thoughts and prayers!
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This thread is just making me sick, I wish there was something I could do to change things so your kids did not have a place to act out in this way, or have a place to go where these kinds of behaviors are encouraged. These public schools have become raving looney bins, and sending our kids to urban and sometimes rural public schools is like sending them to grow up in a place where the paths to destruction outnumber the paths to success by 10 to 1. It just sux, that's all, it just sux.
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Really sorry to hear Karla 
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