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The Jury is in...:'(
« on: Sep 10th, 2004, 7:29pm » |
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The gastroenterologist found a bleeding tumor and took a biopsy. The conscensus is Colon CCCCCCancer.  Spoke with her primary GP and there is no easy answer for this. Said he didn't envy me the decision I have to make. Either way she is at risk. Due to her age and health, the surgery alone could be a big risk, but then so could the tumor growing to the point where it creates a blockage and perforates already weak walls as there is alot of diverticulosis and other smaller polups both above and below the cancerous tumor.
I don't know what to think right now and I hope not to think on this too much more tonight. My brother will be coming up again tomorrow, and the Dr. is going to be around doing piddly stuff all day so the three of us are going to sit down and talk and he'll have Dr. Esser, the surgeon he would reccomend for this, talk to us too if available.
It's a highwire walking act between the risks now, or the risks later.
It's a hell of a weight to carry, because even after talking with my brother the final decision is mine.
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Sorry Redd, wish I could give you a big ass hug right now
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Re: The Jury is in...:'(
« Reply #2 on: Sep 10th, 2004, 7:35pm » |
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Awwwwww Redd, I am so sorry
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Re: The Jury is in...:'(
« Reply #4 on: Sep 10th, 2004, 7:42pm » |
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All the best and tons of support and hugs!!
Hang in there dear, I know how hard it is (not my parent) ,my father went through this earlier in the year.
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Re: The Jury is in...:'(
« Reply #5 on: Sep 10th, 2004, 7:48pm » |
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on Sep 10th, 2004, 7:32pm, Jonny wrote:Sorry Redd, wish I could give you a big ass hug right now
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Re: The Jury is in...:'(
« Reply #6 on: Sep 10th, 2004, 7:49pm » |
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My prayers are with you, little sis...if you need me, i am here....God bless, nancyc
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Re: The Jury is in...:'(
« Reply #7 on: Sep 10th, 2004, 7:49pm » |
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Re: The Jury is in...:'(
« Reply #8 on: Sep 10th, 2004, 8:15pm » |
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Pray about it Redd. I'm sure the decision you make will be the right one.
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Re: The Jury is in...:'(
« Reply #9 on: Sep 10th, 2004, 9:52pm » |
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I'm so sorry Pegg. I wish I could give you a big hug too.
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Re: The Jury is in...:'(
« Reply #10 on: Sep 10th, 2004, 10:10pm » |
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Redd, I am so sorry. You face a very difficult decision. My thoughts are with you, dear.
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Re: The Jury is in...:'(
« Reply #11 on: Sep 10th, 2004, 11:53pm » |
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My condolences, hugs, best wishes, prayers, and thoughts are with you, Pegg.
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Re: The Jury is in...:'(
« Reply #12 on: Sep 10th, 2004, 11:57pm » |
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Sorry to hear this, Peg. But it is time to let her enjoy her life to the fullest right now, no request is out of line. If she wants to go to Vegas, go. I would have to say IMHO, if the surgery has a chance to improve her quality of life, that would be the side to choose. 
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Re: The Jury is in...:'(
« Reply #13 on: Sep 11th, 2004, 12:23am » |
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So very sorry to read and that all I can offer is my support.
I like what Thomas says though. It makes perfect sense.
You are in my thoughts.
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Re: The Jury is in...:'(
« Reply #14 on: Sep 11th, 2004, 12:44am » |
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My condolances as well...but here is some food for thought, providing I have missed nothing on this.......... what does SHE Want to do about it?
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Re: The Jury is in...:'(
« Reply #15 on: Sep 11th, 2004, 1:00am » |
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Yeah.....good question.....what is her opinion ? That mite help ease your mind if you knew ! Good luck with all this....very sorry...this kind of shit SUCKS Pam
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Re: The Jury is in...:'(
« Reply #16 on: Sep 11th, 2004, 1:02am » |
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I love you Ramon for thinking what she wants..
Mom is a dementia patient...she had no clue what she wants.....in all reality!!!
I'm stuck with the going with ewhat she would want and measuring it with what the family would want...it's a tough row to hoe.
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Re: The Jury is in...:'(
« Reply #17 on: Sep 11th, 2004, 1:11am » |
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You have my number Sis...use it if needed......
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Re: The Jury is in...:'(
« Reply #18 on: Sep 11th, 2004, 3:20am » |
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Sorry to hear the news. You do indeed have a difficult choice to make, and I cannot advise either way. We will pray for wisdom for you beyond what you will expect, and then the peace of mind to go with the decision without second thoughts.
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Re: The Jury is in...:'(
« Reply #19 on: Sep 11th, 2004, 3:33am » |
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Don't know what to say Redd, my best to you during this time.
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Re: The Jury is in...:'(
« Reply #20 on: Sep 11th, 2004, 7:11am » |
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Sorry to hear about this extremely tough decision you must make. Just look into your heart & your family and the answer will come.
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Re: The Jury is in...:'(
« Reply #21 on: Sep 11th, 2004, 8:13am » |
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Pegg, you are in my thoughts and prayers. This is truly a tough decision for you to have to make on your own. Sending hugs your way.
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Re: The Jury is in...:'(
« Reply #22 on: Sep 11th, 2004, 8:20am » |
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My thought and prayers are with you Redd.
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Re: The Jury is in...:'(
« Reply #23 on: Sep 11th, 2004, 12:03pm » |
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Pegg,
I am so sorry to to hear everything your mom and family are going through.I pray for strength to make the decision you must make.I trust your family will know that any decision you make will be out of love and respect for your mom.once a desicion is made please remember that you have done the best you can and it will be in gods hands.
praying for you,
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Re: The Jury is in...:'(
« Reply #24 on: Sep 11th, 2004, 4:03pm » |
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I am so sorry that you and your mother are having to go through this but know that you are not alone in your battle. We are praying for you and your family at this difficult time.
My sister in law went in yesterday for a routine hysterectomy. They were going to leave her overies. When they opened her up they found tumors on both overies. They biopsied them and they were both cancerous so both got removed. They searched for more cancer and found some on her intenstines and removed what they could. I am sure she will have to go through chemo and radiation. She is only 59. What news to wake up to.
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