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Donna_D.
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Family...I need your strength (UPDATE on Page 3)
« on: Aug 31st, 2004, 12:52am » |
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As most of you know I posted here earlier this year about leaving my physically violent boyfriend (father of my kids) and you also know he has been in jail since then....first here in Texas where he bonded out and most recently in Florida for assaulting his father.
Well, unbenownst to me until tonight the day has come that I have feared the most.
He is out of Jail.
And I am scared.
He was released from jail last Thursday. I have taken all the necessary legal steps and obtained a two year protective order, notified the local police and sherriffs departments, the apartment complex security and management, locked all my doors and windows and dropped down on my knees and begged God to keep me and my kids safe.
When I left this man (and I use that term loosely) you all gave me great strength and for that I am truly grateful...the kids and I have started a new life. I am proud of what I have been able to accomplish and am willing to fight to keep it.
I now ask to draw off of that strength once again so that I can make it through this difficult time. Just knowing that you are all there and pulling for me makes all the difference in the world.
His last known whereabouts was near Pensacola, Florida on Saturday afternoon and according to his family he was headed back to Texas, drunk and spouting scripture along with angry words, and filled with hate and rage.
I hope he never makes it back here. I hope he never has the opportunity to hurt me or my kids ever again. Right now, all I can do is hope....
Your prayers are needed and deeply appreciated.
Thank you my family,
DD
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Re: Family...I need your strength once again...
« Reply #2 on: Aug 31st, 2004, 1:47am » |
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Get out of your house now until you have some idea where he settles. Wish I had something different to tell you.
Keep us posted and you know we're with you.
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Re: Family...I need your strength once again...
« Reply #3 on: Aug 31st, 2004, 2:47am » |
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Is there anyplace you can go immediately? I have first hand experience with his type of mentality(ex brother in law). The worst is when they are spouting sciptures from the bible. This kind a shit pisses me off. No protection for the innocents all the rights for the perpetrators. Wish I could give you some advice that would make the fear go away  
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Re: Family...I need your strength once again...
« Reply #4 on: Aug 31st, 2004, 2:53am » |
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I am with them. Get out of the house and go to a friend's house or somewhere safe until you know his whereabouts. I hate to hear these kinds of things. Stay safe. I am definitely sending you all of the strength that I can muster. Please keep us updated!!!
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Re: Family...I need your strength once again...
« Reply #5 on: Aug 31st, 2004, 2:58am » |
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K Donna, you better not be reading this right now.. b/c you're supposed to be headed to bed..
Try to get your strength up for tomorrow. That guy sis a walking pit of self-loathing and you have got to get a move on, Charlie is right.
Get out of dodge, by family or shelter. Then you can decide what your next steps are. I know this isn't easy, especially after getting yourself settled again. It sure isn't fair , that bastard...
I love you, you know what you have to do. Keep your bat by the bed... etc..
Talk to you in the morning.
LOVE YOU- we got your back here D. You know I do.
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Re: Family...I need your strength once again...
« Reply #6 on: Aug 31st, 2004, 3:32am » |
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on Aug 31st, 2004, 1:47am, Charlie wrote:Get out of your house now until you have some idea where he settles. Wish I had something different to tell you.
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Lissen to Charlie here Donna.Its a smart move
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« Reply #7 on: Aug 31st, 2004, 4:41am » |
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Charlie's right! Get out now! You can pick the pieces up later. Better that than not being around to pick them up.
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« Reply #8 on: Aug 31st, 2004, 5:16am » |
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echoing everything here. You know where I am and my number if you need it..... , get out of town, Rely on God and Smith & Wesson.
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Re: Family...I need your strength once again...
« Reply #9 on: Aug 31st, 2004, 6:06am » |
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Donna, I understand your anger and sadness. It makes me very sad. What a bastard. We are not all like that man, but I certainly know there are so many that are, that the generalization is too easy. It's just not fair. I know a person that maybe can help you in some way. She is Anna, Zazi’s mum. She works every day with cases like yours, rape ect, she can give you good advice. PLS contact her. Stay strong, Massimo
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« Reply #10 on: Aug 31st, 2004, 6:49am » |
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Vibes and loads of prayers for you and your family.
You've got lots of good advice here.
Stay safe and check in often, we will be worrying about you.
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« Reply #11 on: Aug 31st, 2004, 7:09am » |
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Ditto. Make up your mind that NOTHING is going to hurt you or your children, and get a shotgun. For now, it's best that you simply leave and get somewhere safe, where there are other people who will protect you and your children.
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« Reply #12 on: Aug 31st, 2004, 7:23am » |
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Donna, you know how to get a hold of me if you need to. Stay strong.
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Re: Family...I need your strength once again...
« Reply #13 on: Aug 31st, 2004, 7:35am » |
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Yep. Get armed. At least get yourself the police-quality big-shooters of pepper spray.
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« Reply #14 on: Aug 31st, 2004, 8:00am » |
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DD you know that I've been in these shoes myself. We've talked. Now please, first thing is register with a shelter, and get a safety plan together with a councelor there. He may show up, he may not, you've done the right thing to have all local authorities informed.
If you need to talk to me, you can get my work number from Vig or Racer__NC. You aren't alone Hun!!! Call me if you need me.
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Re: Family...I need your strength once again...
« Reply #15 on: Aug 31st, 2004, 8:52am » |
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Hey Donna,
Is he on any type of community supervised probation in Texas? His last stay in jail (Texas) might have included a court ordered supervised probation when he got out of jail. Also, with another conviction in Pensacola could have made him violate a good behavior provisions with the Texas authorities. The clerk of the court in your area should be able to tell you. If so, contact your probation unit and they can help protect you. I had many situations like this while working in community based probation and I did do a good job.
Also, there are agencies who deal with abuse situations--contact these agencies and obtain their recommendations on what you should do. It sounds like to me that this type of individual will come back and cause problems. Please take care of yourself.
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« Reply #16 on: Aug 31st, 2004, 9:03am » |
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Donna,
remember that HE is a spinless coward.
You are brave and amazing.
(I've known the same fear, I'm on my knees with you)
Vibes and prayers for you and your children.
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Re: Family...I need your strength once again...
« Reply #17 on: Aug 31st, 2004, 9:29am » |
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on Aug 31st, 2004, 8:52am, Giovanni wrote:Hey Donna,
Is he on any type of community supervised probation in Texas? His last stay in jail (Texas) might have included a court ordered supervised probation when he got out of jail. Also, with another conviction in Pensacola could have made him violate a good behavior provisions with the Texas authorities. John |
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Gio.. what does this mean? Does it mean he cannot leave Pensacola because of the probation? He was hiding out from the police the last time he was in Texas, and I would venture to guess he was not to leave the state after he got caught. Then he gets busted, in Florida.
I don't think whack-a-doo is too worried about violating any laws. When you're paranoid about "the people under the stairs" and violent like that, I think anything goes for him.
What can the authorities do if anything, besides telling her to call if he so much as knocks on the door? This guy's not gonna knock, I can tell you that much already...he's done it before... .and that's what the authorities have said.
I hope there's more that can be done Gio, a single woman with children in this situation is extremely vulnerable.
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Re: Family...I need your strength once again...
« Reply #18 on: Aug 31st, 2004, 9:41am » |
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If he were placed on supervised probation in Pensacola, his supervision would be transferred to Texas for supervision. He would have first met with the probation office in Florida and then transferred to Texas. The courts would know if this was the case.
Also, a certified copy of his conviction in Florida could be presented to the Texas authorities if any good behavior provisions were violated. A capias would be issued for his arrest (if violation occurred) by the Texas authorities.
Donna, you need someone in the domestic violence department of your police department to help you on this thing.
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((((( DD ))))
I am so sorry to hear this, you know we have your back. Please be safe and don't take any chances.
Love,
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Donna, I wish you well & have read the good advise given here. He sounds like the type that won't be "out" for long. I hope the next time he goes back to the pen he gets what he deserves.
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Re: Family...I need your strength once again...
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Donna,
Its been said already, but in case it didn't sink in...GET OUT NOW!
I have seen this situation many times in my line of work.
Forget a bat, or pepper spray. If you have a gun, make sure you know how to use it properly. Take lessons. It has to be second nature.
Take the kids and go somewhere safe. And check in with friends every move you make so everyone knows where you and the kids are every hour of the day.
Always prepare for the worst and trust in God.
We will all help any way we can. Prayers and vibes going out.
Be safe...................Little Deb
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Donna,
My door is always open.
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Sending keep safe prayers Donna.
I was involved in a situation like this with a friend of mine once. If you really can't leave and go somewhere safe, just make sure there is ALWAYS someone else with you who can raise the alarm if you are prevented from doing it.
I stayed with my friend for a couple of weeks so that she wasn't always the one who had to be alert, so she could actually get some sleep knowing I was there listening, and so that I could ring the Police if necessary (it wasn't needed fortunately as all he did was ring her up and throw abuse)
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This fuck needs the boots!!!
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