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Can no longer be ignored-Help Needed
« on: Jun 23rd, 2004, 1:43am » |
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Okay,
With everything that's been going on, I've been putting off even thinking about it, much less arranging it.
I've never done it before so I'm kinda clueless.
Any tips on how to plan a wedding would be greatly appreciated. I grew up with 5 brothers so I wasn't one to day dream about this stuff and I have absolutely no idea how to plan one.
My mom is helping but as the last person in our family to have an actual wedding and not an elopement was my great, great grandmother. So I want to make sure I don't miss anything.
Any help or advice is greatly appreciated.
Cheers,
Juvy
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Re: Can no longer be ignored-Help Needed
« Reply #1 on: Jun 23rd, 2004, 1:59am » |
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on Jun 23rd, 2004, 1:43am, juvy wrote:Any tips on how to plan a wedding Any help or advice is greatly appreciated.
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Some newby who called herself Lady Di posted she was marrying some guy name Chuck once and asked this question. We all gave advise and she got lots of help here. Worked it all out with a Barbie and Ken.
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Re: Can no longer be ignored-Help Needed
« Reply #2 on: Jun 23rd, 2004, 2:02am » |
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Juvy, you have a pm waiting for you!
best wishes,
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Re: Can no longer be ignored-Help Needed
« Reply #3 on: Jun 23rd, 2004, 3:12am » |
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Sorry Juvy - I have NO experience in weddings.
I was married once - that's about all the experience I have. And I didn't plan it either - my mother in law took over. It was HER wedding - not mine.
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good luck! I'm sure someone can help you!
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« Reply #4 on: Jun 23rd, 2004, 4:29am » |
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Hi Juvy
My personal view (but based on what we did of course)
Keep it small, simple, meaningful to you and your partner and don't worry a bit about being sentimental. Simple but good food as quickly as possible after the service as everyone is always starving after travelling, and lots of cold drinks.
Swanky smart weddings just cause huge stress and cost too much.
We married in our village church, walked to the service, my Mum sang in the church choir and we then had photos on our village green under a chestnut tree, then led all the guests back on foot to my Mum and Dad's garden.
Everyone's children came (there were more children than adults) and we had little lunchboxes, toys and a couple of nannies to keep an eye on them in the garden while the adults got drunk hassle free in the marquee.
It wasn't a bit smart, it was rather chaotic, the kids got filthy and one fell in the pond in her bridesmaid's dress but everyone said it was the most enjoyable wedding they had ever been to.
I felt like me on the day rather than someone putting on a show for everyone and I loved every minute of it (I got filthy too playing with the kids, but didn't care)
SORRY Juvy, got carried away reminiscing there, but you get the general picture.
Wendy
Just realised it sounds like Meg's wedding from "Little Women" , but I suppose it was a bit!
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« Reply #5 on: Jun 23rd, 2004, 6:40am » |
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Send in a stunt double.
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« Reply #6 on: Jun 23rd, 2004, 6:53am » |
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Have a good second who is in mobile phone contact with you at all times. I masterminded my own wedding (the one time I went in for it) and everything went as planned, safe when they had me in the bridal limousine.
Then they started to do as they thought fit... Oh, if only they had invented mobile phones then! LOL
Food - if you have sit down dinner, go easy on the menu. I was at a wedding with enough to eat for a pride of hungry mountain lions.
The posse of ancient aunts that had been invited dropped out after the first course. I spent a lot iof time wrapping up perfectly good pieces of meat for them to take home.
If you have a budget that forces you to choose, always pick friends over relatives you cannot-ignore-because-somebody-says-so.
You and they will never like each other anyway, whereas friends...
Don't go out for bachelor nights just before. I see too many pie-eyed newly weds thgese days.
Don't let the groom drink much on the wedding day. It will surely dampen his performance otherwise...
Good luck
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« Reply #7 on: Jun 23rd, 2004, 10:17am » |
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You could just do like we did, in this order;
1. Get pregnant 4 years before getting married.
2. Get engaged 2 years later.
2. Get married in another 2 years by an Attorney in January with a meal afterwards at a restaurant for immediate family members. Move into new house that night and live with spouse for the 1st time.
3. Have a huge reception in May for the rest of the family.
4. Get the marriage blessed by the church in September.
Backwards is my middle name. 
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« Reply #8 on: Jun 23rd, 2004, 12:01pm » |
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Run. Run as fast as you can. LOL.
I was married a little over a year ago. My husband says that weddings are parties that you throw for other people. How true.
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« Reply #9 on: Jun 23rd, 2004, 12:49pm » |
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You'll have to figure how much you're willing to spend and go from there. Once a budget is established make everything fit. Three year ago my daughter's cost $20,000.00. This week I'm moving her out. Good luck.
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« Reply #10 on: Jun 23rd, 2004, 1:04pm » |
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BTW, hubby and I paid for everything ourselves, and it cost about $4500-$5000 altogether.
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« Reply #11 on: Jun 23rd, 2004, 1:56pm » |
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Go to the local golf course. They'll have a person to plans such things as weddings. Tell them how much you're willing to spend.
They will plan it, set it up and tear it down.
All you have to do is show up on time the day of the wedding. Get the "I do's" done and leave.
DO NOT have an "OPEN" bar. If your cheap friends know they have to buy their own drinks they will 1. not drink so much or 2. not even show up.
Probably #2.
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« Reply #12 on: Jun 23rd, 2004, 3:27pm » |
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Congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Do what you want to do and dont let anyone tell you "How" it should be done. It is your day. Like Mel, we paid for ours by ourself. But then we had a handfasting in the middle of the Lake Tahoe Forest. And had hamburgers and beer afterwards. 5 of my friends brought their cameras and that was our pictures and my bouquet was a bunch of Wild Flowers that where picked while we walked to the glade.
I still smile when I look at the picture, because it was everything that I wanted and a wonderful start to our lifetimes together.
The best advise is to keep it simple. And try and stay calm, everythign will work out no matter what.
Enjoy yourself.
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Re: Can no longer be ignored-Help Needed
« Reply #13 on: Jun 23rd, 2004, 3:44pm » |
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I've been to alot of weddings and been in a few.......gawd I looked rediculous in that extremely busy huge fllower'd dress alter'd wrong to go way below my knees and big friggin BOW in back and puffy sleeves at the elbows.......arghhh.....along with my tatts......and too blonde of hair I looked like a display in the curtain aisle at Walmart !! I was mortified. Anyhow....where was I......oh yeah.......we've had the MOST fun at the outpoor wedding setups....esp with reception I mean. (wedding can be in or out).......the ones with the BBQ and horsehoes and lawn chairs was the best. Everyone mingled better....more laid back and relaxeing....and got along on a better level verses the stuffy inside EXPENSIVE deals where people claim tables like territory and stare at others as they walk by not showing any signs of being social outside there GROUP. Course.....we grab the table closest to the bar and make fun of them all Pam
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Re: Can no longer be ignored-Help Needed
« Reply #14 on: Jun 24th, 2004, 5:05pm » |
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Thanks for the tips and the PMs. They've given me a lot of ideas. Now I just have to decide how I want to put it all together.
I'm not doing a big wedding but simple affair that should be cosy for everyone.
I'll keep y'all posted. We have decided that we are doing the wedding in Texas, if it will be legally accepted in Holland. The theme is easy as we are getting married in December (he hates the Texas summer heat)
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Juvy
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« Reply #15 on: Jun 24th, 2004, 5:20pm » |
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Your family and friends are just leaches looking for an open bar and a free meal.
Take all that money you'd spend on them and go to Vegas! Viiiiiivaaaaaaa Las Vegaaaaas!!! Woo! Woo! 
Seriously, you'll have much more fun.... 
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on Jun 24th, 2004, 5:20pm, Superpain wrote:Take all that money you'd spend on them and go to Vegas! Viiiiiivaaaaaaa Las Vegaaaaas!!! Woo! Woo!
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Save your self a lot of traveling. Just give me your credit card number(s) and how much you want spent. Athos and Cerebus are coming to Vegas today. We'll take care of everything.
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« Reply #17 on: Jun 24th, 2004, 7:48pm » |
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KISS- Keep it Simple sweetie.... inexpensive dress from the "special occasion" dept., Bouquets from Costco or such... tie a ribbon around a bunch of roses... print your own invites... Micheals craft stores have great ones... choose a nice restaurant that can handle a group of your closest friends and family and forget the rest.... save the money for your future together! Good luck!
Annette Emond..
ps... When Dave and i were married 4 years ago it was under $1000 all in. And I have never regretted a single moment of the day we had together with my family, his, and the relaxing we were able to do.
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« Reply #18 on: Jun 24th, 2004, 9:46pm » |
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When my daughter married 3 years ago - she and her husband paid all of their expenses. They have a very pretty evening ceremony down at the waterfront and then had friends and family back to a hall for a late buffet and dancing. It didnt' cost them that much. She made her own flowers and did her own invitations. It was one of the prettiest weddings we've been to. Not a lot of schmaltz and glitter just two people very much in love who wanted to share their day the best way they could on their budget and it worked for them.
Good luck to you with your plans.
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« Reply #19 on: Jun 27th, 2004, 2:40pm » |
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on Jun 24th, 2004, 6:13pm, BobG wrote:
Save your self a lot of traveling. Just give me your credit card number(s) and how much you want spent. Athos and Cerebus are coming to Vegas today. We'll take care of everything.
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LOL Bob, nice try sweetheart but i'm not that gullible
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« Reply #20 on: Jun 27th, 2004, 3:15pm » |
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We went to the courthouse, neither of us wanted a big wedding. Our parents and brothers and sisters came. We then went to a local swanky restaurant and had champagne. This was in February.
In August we had a reception and invited close friends and relatives, about 55-60 people. We rented an inn and catered it ourselves. We had roast beef, turkey and ham (cooked by me) sliced it and me and my sis-in-law made all the side dishes and tea and coffee. I had the local bakery make 3 cakes and my brother brought the sound system. It was like a big party and lots of fun. We spent about $700.00, of which my dad gave us $500.00. That included a keg of beer, and we closed the place down.
It was very simple, food was good, and everyone had a good time. And no one got stressed out, nobody got upset. It was real nice.
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« Reply #21 on: Jun 27th, 2004, 8:25pm » |
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I like the Vegas Idea...
  
How about getting married in a Hot Tub?
With an Elvis Impersonator officiating the ceremony?
Talk about taking the plunge!!
 Do ya? Uh-huh, Uh-huh? Thankyouverymuch!
Anything but traditional,
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