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helpless23
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Did ya ever get so.......
« on: Jun 5th, 2004, 10:34am » |
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Frustrated that you feel as if you're losing your mind?
I'm up for ANY suggestions (besides counting to 10, because that doesn't work for me) on how to control the 'ol temper when it's flaring!
This happens in the morning - mostly - around 9:00 ish or so.
I'm really at the end of my rope here guys, could use some suggestions!
Fire away please!
Much frustrated love,
Toni
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« Reply #1 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 10:41am » |
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Do you have any place you can hang a weight bag? I have a 70lb weight bag hanging in my basement that I go down and hit when I am very pissed off (just make sure you wear the gloves). I bought it from Fleet Farm for about $50 I believe? If that is not possible, is there a way for you to just take off and go for a power walk? That can help calm you down also. If you're at work, I'd suggest shoving a wad of bubblegum in your mouth and chew it really hard till your jaw is sore.
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« Reply #2 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 11:00am » |
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Mel hit the nail right on the head. Just f'in drop whatever you are doing and slap something.
I tend to get brutally pissed when on conference calls once in a while (I work from home most days). You know the story... we all work with some real winners. Sometimes your staff just drops the ball, meaning that you and your better people will be working all night / all weekend to pick up the slack... you just want to WRING SOMEBODYS F'IN NECK.
In such cases I do one of two things... sometimes I do the same thing Mel does... drop down into the gym room, put on the light gloves, and beat the shit out of the heavy bag until my hands are sore or chest is ready to explode.
Other times I put the dog on a leash and just walk or run or whatever... sometimes 10 minutes, sometimes an hour.
Just gotta step out of the situtation... that is for sure. If I stay in it I take overly rash actions... not good for anyone.
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« Reply #3 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 11:12am » |
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Others have had some good suggestions.
If all else fails ... try some Valium 
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« Reply #4 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 12:02pm » |
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wish I could help ya more, but the heavy bag thing oughtta work pretty well. I get frustrated alot, and my want to KILL the A$$hole that caused it is usually pretty damn strong. I used to go trap shooting to ease the tension, now I am reduced to trying to ignore the cause for the safety of others in my household. Usually I'm a pretty rational guy....but I tend to bottle up frustrations.
When I was working at the restaurant, I would go into the walk-in freezer to vent anger and frustration, just cuss up a storm in there where no one could hear me.
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« Reply #5 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 12:18pm » |
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Sometimes, when I'm all fired up, one thing that helps me calm down is to imagine observing myself being so angry. Usually, that's enough to remind me of what a complete dumbass I look like when I'm being angry about stupid things.
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« Reply #6 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 12:26pm » |
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« Reply #7 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 12:28pm » |
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7 Crown! 
Sometimes I get the same way, but I just have to tell myself that there are some things that I can't control and there will be idiotic people that I will have to deal with on a daily basis.
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« Reply #8 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 12:43pm » |
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I wonder if the 9-am thing has something to do with it? Sugar-imbalance?
Try an big orange juice. Or if you had a big orange juice, then lay off the orange juice.
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« Reply #9 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 3:35pm » |
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Walk outside, find an ant or any bug crawling on the ground, Ask it how its day is.....then squash the fucker and say "Mines better!!"
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« Reply #10 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 3:49pm » |
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Damn!
I knew I came to the right place for help!
I don't drink OJ (doesn't agree with me).
Jonny - bugs - yeah, I have PLENTY of that crap around here. One of the things that PISS ME OFF!!!! Resiliant little fuckers!
Punching bag -wish I had the space. I don't have a basement or a spare INCH in this house. I yell. That's my thing. But yelling pisses everyone off, doesn't solve anything and I piss myself off too, then I yell louder. LOL
Mind twist is what it is!!!!
Keep them coming! I will try just about anything at this point to keep the 'ol temper from flarin'!
A hug usually helps, but there is no one around that time of morning to give me one.
Such a simple solution.
Much Love,
Toni
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« Reply #11 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 4:18pm » |
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Well not OJ specifically, but any food in the AM... glucose balance. Is something in/not in your blood that should be/not be there at 0900 that makes you cranky?
The morning-only aspect is what makes me wonder. Coffee? Milk? I dunno.
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« Reply #12 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 4:25pm » |
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« Reply #13 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 4:25pm » |
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A little trick my mom (a manic depressive) told me to help with my mood swings was to take a B-12 vitamin everyday, the sustained release kind. You'd be surprised at how it helps to calm your nerves.
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« Reply #14 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 4:33pm » |
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Mel, you would not believe what a B-12 shot in the ass cheek will do.....hurts like hell but well worth it.
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« Reply #15 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 6:51pm » |
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Vitamin B has always bettered my mood (I'm a closet Jekyll and Hyde lol) and I can tell when I'm not taking it. I also have low blood sugar and that will make me very cranky sometimes. Of course my boss is a total helpless nimrod, and I am not the only one at work who gets pissed off at him. Take some deep breaths, and move on to something else.
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« Reply #16 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 7:53pm » |
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It's hard when it has to deal with the fact of my son refusing to eat ANYTHING throughout the day - knowing what it can do to him, and being I've let him "get low" before to try and teach him a lesson, through the Dr.'s telling me so - he still doesn't get it.
Besides all the other crap. That just seems to heighten all the "petty" shit around me and then everything starts to bother me.
I just want him to know how serious this is, and I know how serious this is, but he, I guess is in that "phase" or something, and it gets so frustrating!
I may just try that Vitamin B though.
Thanks for all the suggestions guys.
Much Love,
Toni
PS- I don't eat much in the morning either.
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« Reply #17 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 8:46pm » |
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Toni, pick up the phone and give me shout. U know the blasted number so use it!! *tappin foot*  If that dont work find a good sized tree (sorry to all you tree huggers out there) grab your baseball bat!! Just picture the MF that pissed in your coffee that morning and have at it!!! Once Im dont the tree might have some bark gone but I feel SOOOOOOO much better! Dave and my kids know if Mom gets the bat she's on the war path and they stay away till Ive cool my jets!! Then Im ready to be Mom again! That way you dont say anything you cant take back either. So everyone is safe. Good luck hun!!
Love Leesa
PS: Ill call ya Monday morning before "blast off" LOL 
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« Reply #18 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 8:56pm » |
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LOL
Thanks Leesa! I was out all day with my parents, for the FIRST time in such a long time. Much needed for me!
Eating was still a "blast" (sarcasm). But it was nice to finally get out of the house and away from these damn walls.
And you know, before Ken cut all the trees down, the bat idea may have been a great one - but since then...there aren't many tree's around in the back yard!
I already have a "lovely" reputation with the neighbors (due to rumors), so I can't use the tree in the front yard. LOL
Call me Monday. I will be here. Sorry I didn't return the call. And you know how I HATE to just dump my shit on you ALL THE TIME!!!!! That's why I don't call you as often as I would like. Otherwise, we would be gabbin' for DAYS NON STOP!!!! LOL
But I'll be home on Monday. I look forward to your call.
Leesa - the one who just randomly calls to check up on me, along with my other Angel - Chuck.
I'm a lucky girl. I should stop and realize that more often.
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Toni
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« Reply #19 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 9:02pm » |
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Toni,
My number one rule is: Don't sweat the small stuff.
My number two rule is: Everything is small stuff.
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« Reply #20 on: Jun 6th, 2004, 12:11am » |
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on Jun 5th, 2004, 8:56pm, helpless23 wrote:| I'm a lucky girl. I should stop and realize that more often. |
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« Reply #21 on: Jun 6th, 2004, 12:28am » |
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I've wrestled with my temper all my life. By far, I've found that the most effective way of dealing with it, of short-circuiting the anger-cycle that builds and ends in a huge explosion, where I totally lose my mind and begin breaking stuff, beating the shit out of people, and turning into a ruthless machine, is when I begin to feel angry, rather than resisting or denying it, is to turn and quietly say to myself inwardly, "Yes, I am angry." Accept it and acknowledge it.
The emotions are like selfish, spoiled children. The more you attempt to ignore them, the more loudly they clamor for attention, and if you don't give it to them, rather than just "going away," they either submerge themselves in resentment and emerge in other less healthy ways, or else they become monsters that you have no hope in hell of controlling.
Accept, acknowledge, pat it on the head, and send it toddling off happily, and then pat yourself on the back for not allowing it to control you.
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