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Linda_Howell
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This morning my significant other told me he wanted me to move back to California.
I have rented out my house, put my things in storage, changed licence plates, Ins. Co. etc. Major life change for me. I know no one here in Sokane to help me, but I have to shut down my computer soon and I don't know when I will be back here. I don't know if I can even get to the convention now since my plane takes off from Spokane and I won't be here. I don't know if OUCH will still want me to be on the Bod since I can't contribute via the internet...
As some of you know I got married a month ago and now he wants me to leave. I am in such shpock I don't even know how I am writing this
Linda
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Re: Leaving
« Reply #1 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 10:13am » |
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Linda,
Please, please, please find some way to communicate. We really want to be here for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Please, an address, ANYTHING!!!!
Nooooooooooooooo
Kevin M
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Linda_Howell
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Re: Leaving
« Reply #2 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 10:19am » |
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Local park bench. Redding, Ca.
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Melissa
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OMG Linda, I don't know what to say other than I'm so sorry!!
WTF is wrong with him??? I did not even know you got married, now I wanna kill your new husband.  Is he having a momentary lapse of sanity? Cripes.
BIG BIG ((((HUGS)))) to you lady!
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Re: Leaving
« Reply #4 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 10:35am » |
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Awe man I sure hope you can make it to the convention, I was really lookiing forward to meeting you.
You gotta do what you gotta do though and I hope it all goes well.
try to keep us posted and good luck,
Jim
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Re: Leaving
« Reply #5 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 10:38am » |
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That's an awful lot to ask someone.....I hope there's a real profitable reason (not just money) and that you think this over before you leave.
No one should make life changing decisions on the spur of the moment and I am worried about you.
I can't imagine ch.com without you, but if you are doing something that you really want to do....God bless you.
Be sure that some one here knows how to keep in touch with you. We love you.
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Re: Leaving
« Reply #6 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 10:39am » |
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on Jun 5th, 2004, 10:19am, Linda_Howell wrote:
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The zip code Linda, the zip code! Sorry, just poor attempt to make you 
Linda, we're here for you to get you through this!!!!
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Re: Leaving
« Reply #7 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 11:09am » |
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Damn, that sucks.
Sorry Linda
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Re: Leaving
« Reply #8 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 11:20am » |
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If ya need anything...lemme know. Luke
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Re: Leaving
« Reply #9 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 11:25am » |
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DAMN?! Sorry to hear about all the crap you husband is putting U through. Where ever you are you akways belong here and we will look and wait for you to have the chance to say hello again!
Good Luck!
GOOD VIBES!!
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Re: Leaving
« Reply #10 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 11:36am » |
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Linda, you've got my phone number.....please use it, anytime.
Want a real Texas bitch to come kick his ass?
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Re: Leaving
« Reply #11 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 11:41am » |
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Linda, I am sooooooo sorry. Please try and take a deep breath and perhaps things will work out. In the meantime, I am sending huge hugs and happiness vibes your way !!!!!!!!!
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John_D
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That really sux Linda. I am sorry to hear that 
Good vibes....
John
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I am not going, but I still send hopes for you to make it to the convention.
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Re: Leaving
« Reply #13 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 11:51am » |
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Linda,
I'm here for you hun, my health is doing well, and you are free to call me or even come stay if you need a place to escape for awhile.
You have my number, use it collect if you need to.
Luv Cat
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Re: Leaving
« Reply #14 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 11:52am » |
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WHAT?! 
I dunno what to say!
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Please PM me his address, Linda
I would like to me him!!
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Re: Leaving
« Reply #17 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 1:32pm » |
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Re: Leaving
« Reply #18 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 1:47pm » |
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Linda . . .
1st . . I so totally agree with Un_Solved.
2nd . . I also agree with Donna . .and life changes shouldn't be made spur of the moment .
Maybe y'all just need to take a little break . . .and have some discussion (with immunity, so y'all can really talk with no worries). Maybe the break could be . . .don't leave yet, go to the convention . .then go back to Spokane and talk?
Just an idea . . .
I hope everything works out well for you . . .do what you need to do for you . . .and fight for yourself . . .you deserve to take care of you.
*positive light and energy*
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Sorry to hear that it is not working out for you Linda.
Damn that SUCKS. Hope you get back on track soon. Take care of your self and let us know how you're doing when you get settled back in Calfornia.
Sure hope you don't have to miss the convention.
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jonny
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I have one more.....well, two things to add.
Linda, your married?.....you own HALF his stuff, tell him to get the fuck out of YOUR house.
Lastly, who the fuck said Linda made a spur of the moment life change?......any of you live with Linda and know her daily thoughts?......I didnt think so!
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Re: Leaving
« Reply #21 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 2:06pm » |
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moving quickly, while stressed about the decision, or doing it under duress is a major life change, and it sounds as if it's being made quickly . . .if it's been in the works for awhile, then forgive my assumption.
btw, i hope linda did pm jonny the hubby's addy . . .he will be needing company if/when you she moves *g*
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Re: Leaving
« Reply #22 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 2:07pm » |
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on Jun 5th, 2004, 1:47pm, miapet wrote:.
Maybe y'all just need to take a little break . . .and have some discussion (with immunity, so y'all can really talk with no worries). Maybe the break could be . . .don't leave yet, go to the convention . .then go back to Spokane and talk? |
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Don't know mia, seems he knows all the sacrifice she went through to be with him. A week after committing everything, bang. I wouldn't waste my breath. He just proposed a little time ago. Sounds like he's ridiculous. If "leaving" came from his lips, I wouldn't stay, it sounds like unhappiness for her. She can get back on her feet again, needs support. Sooner the better. He's committed his intentions for the future with this anal act of cruelty.
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Linda_Howell
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Re: Leaving
« Reply #23 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 2:29pm » |
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He doesn't want to talk things out. After 4 days of ignoring me and sleeping on the couch, I put it to him this morning right after a hit and said that we need to work this out/compromise etc. He said it can't be done. I said so what??? you want me to move back to California???????Incredulous. He said yes.
He was nice enough to offer the suggestion that he will have next week-end free to help me get there.
I have let my Medical Ins. lapse because he was putting me on his, changed all my other Ins., have WASHINTON plates on my car, rented out my house and signed a contract to do that, put my things in storage, etc.....
Now here I sit at my pc because you people here are the only voices I have to communicate with in this strange town where I know absolutly no-one.
This is going to be a real test of strength for me if I get through it at all. I know you all wish the best and I appreciate it, but in reality...I am alone.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for being here.
Linda
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Re: Leaving
« Reply #24 on: Jun 5th, 2004, 2:42pm » |
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BTW....
You people here and the ones who've called me and IM'd me are the only things that are keeping me sane right now. I tried to make a pot of coffee a while ago and just stood there and cryed and couldn't figure out how to do it.
Linda
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