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Since we are on this Dr. Phil subject, I wonder how many clusterheads were beaten as children, I’m not talking about a slap on the butt, I’m talking getting the shit knocked out of your ass. Talk to me please
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« Reply #1 on: Jul 28th, 2003, 8:39pm » |
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not me
great childhood
maybe 5 spankings total
lucky that I chose the parents I did, I guess
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« Reply #2 on: Jul 28th, 2003, 8:43pm » |
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Never once struck by mom or dad.
Tongue lashings from Pop put the fear of God into me.
(He did take a swing once. I ducked. I still feel the breeze today)
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« Reply #3 on: Jul 28th, 2003, 8:48pm » |
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Don, is that a swirling breeze?
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Re: We don't want to talk about it
« Reply #6 on: Jul 28th, 2003, 9:45pm » |
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Brad says his dad was purdy rough on him....he came from a family of 7 kids....he took the blame for most the shit they pulled. Pam that still has shit ta knock out 
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« Reply #7 on: Jul 28th, 2003, 9:55pm » |
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That's a topic that is really tough to talk about in the open. To this day, I not only don't talk about it much, I find that I have suppressed the most horrible memories. This isn't just 'I'm gonna be tough about it" kind of suppression... I'm talking the kind of suppression that you don't even realize you're doing. For example, I was picked to be on a jury that was about domestic violence. We were asked multiple times if we had any issues in our past that would be relevant to the case, or if anything like this had happened to us. I repeatedly said no. They were just about to ‘sit’ this particular jury with me on it when I realized that, wait a minute, I can’t be fair in this trial. I swear, it just was like I had completely forgotten these tragic events. As soon as I realized what had happened, I called for a conference with the Judge. Imagine how stupid I felt explaining that, yes, I had been in a very violent home. The judge, the prosecutor, the defendants attorney… they all looked at me like I was loony or just trying to escape jury duty. It was very strange indeed.
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« Reply #8 on: Jul 28th, 2003, 10:07pm » |
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It only happened once to me, one summer day when I was thirteen my DAD came home from work early. He wanted to know why the yard wasn't mowed, I said it is too fucking hot out there, with one backhand I was in the backyard 110 deg F. and mowing . That backhand sent me at least 15 feet. I did not know he had C/H at the time but it became clear later,
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« Reply #10 on: Jul 28th, 2003, 10:36pm » |
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enough to say mine was brutal..my dad would be in jail if he did those things in todays times....I have forgiven..but will never forget..
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Re: We don't want to talk about it
« Reply #11 on: Jul 28th, 2003, 10:45pm » |
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Nope. My childhood is too good. Never laid a finger on me. Lite spanking is all. Didn't really hurt
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« Reply #12 on: Jul 28th, 2003, 11:29pm » |
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I only remember being beaten once. It seems my sister (4) and I (5) were playing doctor and I took her temperature with a screwdriver except I accidentally shoved the screwdriver down her throat. My sister was screaming her head off with blood gushing out her mouth and my mom was running around trying to catch me saying something about killing my ass. Eventually she caught up to me... I don't remember much after that. ;D
She required surgery and spent a week in the hospital. I was pissed that she got to have ice cream when she was there and I didn't get any. 
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« Reply #13 on: Jul 29th, 2003, 1:42am » |
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nope.
But I have talked to several people who have chronic and also episodic clusters who certainly had a rough time of it as a child..
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« Reply #14 on: Jul 29th, 2003, 1:42am » |
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on Jul 28th, 2003, 10:30pm, forgetfulnot wrote:| It only happened once to me, one summer day when I was thirteen my DAD came home from work early. He wanted to know why the yard wasn't mowed, |
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Thank God. After seeing "DAD came home from work early" I was worried the next line was going to be "and mom told me to hop out of bed and go hide in the closet."
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« Reply #15 on: Jul 29th, 2003, 2:31am » |
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Curious why you ask this question Lee? Not having a go, just confused ???
If it is catharsis for board members, then I suppose it has a place, maybe...
But "Talk to me" sounds strange in this context.
IF it is a suggestion of a connection with CH onset, IMHO is just gives credence to the prehistoric wankers who suggest that we are some hysterical, drug seeking, psychologically damaged bunch who need mind drugs, not proper treatment. That would put us back 20 years.
Sorry, probably get flamed now, just my view.
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Not me. No parental abrasions about the head and face.
I would have chronic Clusterbuttaches. Caught my share on that end.
...now emotional and psychlogical abuse is another thing. I got lots of "looking back" and "letting go" in that department.
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Re: We don't want to talk about it
« Reply #17 on: Jul 29th, 2003, 7:37am » |
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My old man laid into me pretty good with a belt across the ass a few times...
... nothing more... never left a scar..... mentally or physically...
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Re: We don't want to talk about it
« Reply #18 on: Jul 29th, 2003, 8:03am » |
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My mom's favourite weapon used to be a wooden spoon. My brother and I used to throw them on the roof hehe. So she switched to hot wheels tracks, those mothers pack a sting!
However, I have to say, we deserved each and every time we got it, which really wasn't that often. My father never once laid a finger on me, my mother says he shoulda 
Fairly normal *ahem* childhood here.
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I used to get my ass beat, switches (i had to bring in ones that were green and juicy and take off the leaves) and also belts by my grandmother. My mom used to hit me in my face and my grandmother too. I got tied down to the couch and got it hard with a belt. Is why I'm so screwed up in the head now I don't really know. But I do tend to put myself down alot ALOT. Stuey
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« Reply #20 on: Jul 29th, 2003, 9:04am » |
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Wes says he wasn't beaten ever....I have 4 kids and a wooden spoon which is called 'The Persuader' never had to use it....a look does it! 
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« Reply #21 on: Jul 29th, 2003, 9:13am » |
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Wow stuey that sounded sorta tramatic........were you that bad of a kid.......ya know......shootin pets with arrows or stranglin or drownin kittens. Don't worry tho cuz I put myself down alot too and am purdy rough on myself and I had a great childhood tho so don't blame it on family. You'll be ok.....you have this wonderful family here for ya too. I'm so sorry for your bad childhood fu......I really am. Pam that only got her head banged upside the wall once when little cuz I was a brat
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Re: We don't want to talk about it
« Reply #22 on: Jul 29th, 2003, 9:33am » |
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None. After watching my two older sisters get there asses kicked (Deservedly) I didn't want any part of that shit.
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« Reply #23 on: Jul 29th, 2003, 10:27am » |
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My mom used the wooden spoon too - especially on my older brother. I saw her break many a spoon on his butt.....she never used it on me though that stands out in my mind. My dad only hit me one time that I remember - I was 5 years old and took off down the street to the playgroud - didn't tell anyone where I was. When I came back, the entire house was frantic. He swatted my butt, but hurt my feelings more than my fanny. 
I had a good childhood with no violence. My heart goes out to those that had it different.
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