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Death in the family
« on: Mar 13th, 2003, 2:05am » |
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I just wanted to let everyone know that my nephew was killed in a car accident this evening.
Nicholas was a wonderful boy. He was my son's best friend...he was only 16. I always thought he was older than he actually was because he was so big. This 6'3" football player was coming home from choir practice at church, when he was hit by a one ton dually truck. They used the jaws of life to get him out....then medivaced him to Wichita Falls, the town closest to me, but, he didn't survive the trip. My oldest son was the only one already at the hospital when the doctor came out with the news. The parents had a 45 minute drive to get there, and the ambulance carrying Nicholas's mom and dad passed us on the highway....the ambulance took them to the wrong hospital. I beat the parents to the hospital, so I was the one who had to tell them their son was dead. I also had to tell his grandma (my mother-in-law).
Everything still feels so surreal to me...I'm hoping by writing this down for my other family, it will begin to make some kind of sense.
Hug your children tonight and love them dearly....I know I am. Everything you know as precious can be gone in an instant.
I never in my life want to have to tell another mother that her son is dead.
Tracey
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Re: Death in the family
« Reply #1 on: Mar 13th, 2003, 2:23am » |
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Dear Tracey--please accept my condolences for your loss and convey them to your family. The loss of a young one is especially hard. I am sure *this* family will have you and yours in our prayers. Thank you for sharing and we wish you peace.
best.....Steve, Martha, and the Kidz
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Re: Death in the family
« Reply #2 on: Mar 13th, 2003, 2:28am » |
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Roxy..
My heart goes out to you and everybody affected by this tragedy.
Words are hard for me to find in situations like this, but know that you and your family are in my thoughts and if there is anything that I can do, please let me know.
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Re: Death in the family
« Reply #3 on: Mar 13th, 2003, 3:00am » |
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My heart goes out to you and everybody affected by this tragedy.
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Re: Death in the family
« Reply #4 on: Mar 13th, 2003, 3:44am » |
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Dearest Tracey,
There is no silver lining in a cloud such as this. However, Nicholas has grown bigger than life and has reached out to touch people all over the world, through this post. Because of Nicholas, I, for one, will be stopping to smell the roses.
My best wishes, peace and condolences,
David J.
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Re: Death in the family
« Reply #5 on: Mar 13th, 2003, 4:42am » |
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Tracey,
I am so very, very sorry about your nephew.
My thoughts and prayers are with your family.
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Tracey
You don't know me but I am so sorry. I cannot begin to imagine how terrible it must have been to tell them. I was a Police Officer and only ever had to tell strangers and that was harrowing enough. There are no words to help as there is no reason for a tragedy like that, but thank you for reminding us how precious life is. It is times like this that we realise how lucky we are, even with CH! I have just hugged and told my son how much I love him. (he is three and just told me to go away so he can play with Action Man but at least he knows I love him)
Sending you all the sympathy we can give from 'over the pond' as Jonny calls it
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Re: Death in the family
« Reply #7 on: Mar 13th, 2003, 4:58am » |
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We are so sorry to hear of your loss. We are praying for your family at this time.
Karla, Ted, and boys
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« Reply #8 on: Mar 13th, 2003, 6:35am » |
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I'm staring at Karla's cross icon...with the dawn approaching in the background.
Some nights are more still, deeper, darker than others. Storm warnings for dawn give the blackness an oppressive feel. Hope seems distant.
Faith and love help me see beyond tonight and tomorrow's images of misery. That brighter dawn may not come tomorrow .....but it will come.
I'm staring at Karla's cross icon...with the dawn approaching in the background.
Walk in the sunshine
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Re: Death in the family
« Reply #9 on: Mar 13th, 2003, 7:43am » |
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So Sorry Tracey. My thoughts & prayers are with you & your family....
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Re: Death in the family
« Reply #10 on: Mar 13th, 2003, 8:16am » |
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Tracey,
I am so sorry to hear about your nephew. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and everyone affected by this sad tragedy.
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Re: Death in the family
« Reply #11 on: Mar 13th, 2003, 8:25am » |
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Tracey, please accept my deepest and most sincere sympathy at your sad loss. I feel honored as well that you think enough of all of us here to come to us in your time of need to share this deeply sad news.
May God keep you close and warm in his love as you all grieve for your nephew. Please extend my wishes to your entire family.
Den has such beautiful words for us here, thank you Den
Thoughts and prayers to you dear,
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Re: Death in the family
« Reply #12 on: Mar 13th, 2003, 8:32am » |
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Oh Tracey! I'm so sorry for you loss. I wish there were words of wisdom I could share with you, but I'm not very good at the type of thing.
Den has a beautiful way with words. Read and reread his post. May his words bring you comfort in this most trying of times!
hugs to you and your family
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Re: Death in the family
« Reply #13 on: Mar 13th, 2003, 9:07am » |
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Tracey
So sorry to hear this news. It is never easy to put thoughts into words at a time like this.
A death in the family, or of a friend, is never an easy thing to deal with, but it is so much tougher when it is someone so young and the circumstances so unexpected.
It must have been so hard to be the one to break the news. That is a job that no-one EVER wants to do. I'm sure that your family and Nicholas' family will remember and be very appreciative of what you went through.
It may seem impossible to make sense of such an unexpected tragedy. Sometimes we can't understand the reasons behind God's will, nor are we supposed to be able to. He does have his reasons even though we can't always fathom them.
I really wish I knew what to say other than that my thought and prayers are going out to you and yours.
Your friend,
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Re: Death in the family
« Reply #14 on: Mar 13th, 2003, 9:44am » |
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Oh Tracey  ....
I am so very very sorry my friend... for your loss, your family's loss. For Tyler, Whit & Gregory, for Nicholas' parents.
Last night and this morning the first and last word in my head was 'Nicholas'. I promise you I prayed for him but the Great one had a higher plan for him.
My daughter, when I see her tonight, will be a treasure... thank you for letting us know - again, it puts so much in perspective.
Peace, love and big hugs to you all my friend......
Always,
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Re: Death in the family
« Reply #15 on: Mar 13th, 2003, 9:59am » |
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Tracey i'am very sorry for your loss
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Re: Death in the family
« Reply #16 on: Mar 13th, 2003, 10:01am » |
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Tracey, we share your sorrow. If there's anything we can do to help ease your pain, please let us know. Lots of wide, waterproof shoulders here.
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Re: Death in the family
« Reply #17 on: Mar 13th, 2003, 10:06am » |
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Dear Tracey, I am so sorry for your and your families loss. Tonight I'll hug and kiss my boys, and tell them how much i love them. I do this alot, But when you read something as tragic as this it means more than just a routine thing.
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« Reply #18 on: Mar 13th, 2003, 10:38am » |
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I'm so very sorry to hear this. If we can help please let us know. Reading this made me heart sink, and wake up Mychael and hold him so very close. The family is in my prayers and in my heart.
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Re: Death in the family
« Reply #19 on: Mar 13th, 2003, 10:41am » |
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heartfelt hugs to you and yours Tracey.....am thinking of you all in your time of loss.........Love, Pam-Coots-emotional-girl
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« Reply #20 on: Mar 13th, 2003, 10:51am » |
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Tracey,
I am so sorry for your loss. It puts all the petty BS that we deal with on a daily basis into it's proper perspective. Family and friends should always know how much we care about them, and this is a reminder to let them all know more often...sending you positive energy.
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Re: Death in the family
« Reply #21 on: Mar 13th, 2003, 10:53am » |
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Tracey---That is horrible. Know that I am thinking of you and your family.
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Re: Death in the family
« Reply #23 on: Mar 13th, 2003, 11:10am » |
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Tracey,
I am SO sorry to hear this news. I know you've had a rough time lately but all those other things probably pale in comparison to what you had to endure last night. My heart goes out to you. This family is here for you always! It is never easy losing a loved one, especially one so young.
I will be praying for you & your family.
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Re: Death in the family
« Reply #24 on: Mar 13th, 2003, 11:25am » |
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Tracey,
I'm so sorry to hear of your families loss. What a tragedy it is to be taken away so young. I can't even imagine how hard that must've been for you to be the one to tell his parents.
Just know that the CH community is here for you whenever you need us.
Thoughts and prayers going out to you and your family.
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