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Elaine
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I was thinking about ch.com and the friendship here. I think its just like in real life. The board here is already great but we could make it greater by thinking along these lines.
If you disagree with an opinion, challenge that opinion; refrain from ever attacking the person who gave it. The online jargon for personal attacks is "flaming," an unfortunate phenomenon that is too much a part of many areas of cyberspace.
The many people who read through our message boards do so primarily to locate information and opinion. Where that includes opposing opinions generating a lively discussion, wonderful situation! Where that includes the uglier aspects of human nature, waste of time.
another reason to agree to disagree. . . because you (or me, or the next Fool) could easily be proved wrong.
Many people come into our lives throughout a lifetime. Some people we meet and never remember. Others pass into our lives for a short time, yet leave a lasting memory. Yet others, the few and far between, become a part of our everyday selves. They're the people you can share your entire being with. Your hopes, your fears, your everyday happenings. These are the people you come to count on in good times, in bad times and the times in between. These are the best friends. Friends you know will be in your life throughout time. No matter the physical distance between you, you're always close, always connected.
At least that's what you assume. You never have a reason to believe it will be any different. But people change. Some for the better, some for the worse, and sometimes as a result, friends can go their separate ways. It is sad to realize you've grown apart. It hurts to find you may have actually done something to end the friendship. It's devastating to learn that your friend no longer wants to be a part of your life, no matter what the reason.
The loss of a friendship can be even more painful than the loss of a boyfriend or girlfriend. After all, when you lose a partner, it's your friends you turn to for consolation. Who do you turn to when you lose a friend? Who will let you call them at 3 am so that you can cry on their shoulder? Who is going to tell you that you'll find another, and be convincing? You know that friendships happen over time. Great friendAt least that's what you assume. You never have a reason to believe it will be any different. But people change. Some for the better, some for the worse, and sometimes as a result, friends can go their separate ways. It is sad to realize you've grown apart. It hurts to find you may have actually done something to end the friendship. It's devastating to learn that your friend no longer wants to be a part of your life, no matter what the reason. But especially if the reason is one you believe to be trivial.
Once you get over the initial ego shock and anger, you settle into a feeling of hurt and regret, bordering on despair. You begin to question your value as a friend. As a human being. Over time you'll look back on your friendship with a bittersweet sadness. It's easy to remember the good times, and unlike many relationships, there are usually few bad times that were an early signal to the demise.
However, you should always keep in mind that people come into your life for a reason. Some are meant to stay forever. Others are here only to teach you or to you help you through something, or you were in theirs to teach or to help them. Even when a friend is no longer in your life, if you were truly friends, you should value what they gave you from themselves. There are always lessons to be learned. By concentrating on what you have both given and received within the friendship, you will find it easier to deal with the loss of a friend.
In doing all this, you can be a good poster and a good friend even after a friendship has ended.
I have been guity of the bad things here so I am not picking on anyone just trying to see things in a better light.
Maybe if we all agree to disagree we can all stay friends who knows!
Anyway my thoughts for today!
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Re: Friends and agreeing to disagree!
« Reply #1 on: Nov 23rd, 2002, 8:53am » |
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Elaine,
Hear! Hear!
Yours is the voice of Reasoning !
Words are often mistaken, Used with out regard.
Often A persona cannot be mistaken.
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Re: Friends and agreeing to disagree!
« Reply #2 on: Nov 23rd, 2002, 9:21am » |
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as usual the voice of wisdom, good post E! bustin' balls is good enough for me ;D I'll try not to flame for you E, but sometimes people are just beggin' for it  ..........2late
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Re: Friends and agreeing to disagree!
« Reply #3 on: Nov 23rd, 2002, 11:31am » |
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Well, E....ya did it again 
Another "thinker" for us....
Nice post my friend 
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Re: Friends and agreeing to disagree!
« Reply #4 on: Nov 23rd, 2002, 1:19pm » |
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Thanks for those thoughtful words. The word friend holds different meaning for so many of us. A true friend can overlook the occasional backfire of a well meaning dolt. And "friends" come and go. In the end, few stick around. Agree to disagree. A coin winks in the light and can dull in the dirt. It is still a coin. And it will always be worth sumpin. For those who take the time to LOOK.
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Re: Friends and agreeing to disagree!
« Reply #5 on: Nov 23rd, 2002, 6:53pm » |
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I more than likely did in the last four years Nick you know me and my thinking! 
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« Reply #7 on: Nov 23rd, 2002, 8:39pm » |
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LOL Mark! ;D
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Re: Friends and agreeing to disagree!
« Reply #8 on: Nov 24th, 2002, 2:10am » |
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Great post Elaine.
I'll have to disagree though 
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« Reply #9 on: Nov 24th, 2002, 10:08am » |
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Thats cool Charlie and I still love ya!!!! 
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Re: Friends and agreeing to disagree!
« Reply #10 on: Nov 26th, 2002, 3:02pm » |
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Good one Mark C
Elaine - you did it again. You've put everthing back into perspective for everyone. Sure hope it works.
Mia
PS - Now can someone PLEASE tell my mother it's okay to agree to disagree? LMAO
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« Reply #11 on: Nov 26th, 2002, 3:13pm » |
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Hey Mia's mom. It's ok if she dosen't agree with you, and you don't need to agree with her.
Welcome, hope it works.
Can someone tell my wife that the fact she has boobies does not necessarily make her correct, and that humanity as a whole has the right to their own opinion. To hell with mine -- she'll tell me what my opinion is! ;D
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« Reply #12 on: Nov 26th, 2002, 3:15pm » |
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on Nov 26th, 2002, 3:13pm, echo wrote:Can someone tell my wife that the fact she has boobies does not necessarily make her correct....
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depends on the boobies! 
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« Reply #13 on: Nov 26th, 2002, 3:22pm » |
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Good point(s) slammy. ;D ;D
I'm kind of a leg, butt, belly, boobie, lips, eyes kind of guy anyway. Just in case anyone gives a shit!
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« Reply #14 on: Nov 26th, 2002, 3:55pm » |
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Good boy Echo... you better at least play dead after that post...
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« Reply #15 on: Nov 26th, 2002, 4:26pm » |
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But, Echo- She's right!!!!
I know- cause, y'know what? I got some, too! THEY know we're right, why don't you?
Oh, and Echo- we, ummm, well, we uhhh, never call them boobies- we prefer to call them brains......go ask your wife- she'll tell you I' m right.......\
Slammy -don't even THINK about it.........................
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Re: Friends and agreeing to disagree!
« Reply #16 on: Nov 26th, 2002, 4:33pm » |
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And they come in so many shapes and sizes, a virtual plethora of intelligence is out there.
Tonight I'll ask her if she wants a deep brain massage. ;D
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Re: Friends and agreeing to disagree!
« Reply #18 on: Nov 26th, 2002, 5:32pm » |
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Can I disagree to agree instead??
And if they're called brains, why does it seem the bigger they are, the more mindless the woman?
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« Reply #19 on: Nov 26th, 2002, 5:41pm » |
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Well, Drk- Little known secret I'm compelled to share with you- they're twins, right? They communicate with each other constantly- size has nothing to do with it at all- they're just , once again, setting you guys up, so as to confuse and confound you!!!! 
You guys are the only ones who really care about size...but, since we're on the subject- the false ones- fiberfill, silicone- they are false brains- they do not work- except to draw your attention- and that takes no brains at all....... ;
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« Reply #20 on: Nov 26th, 2002, 5:48pm » |
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My take!
You love the whole woman and not one part!!
If tits is all you want get a hooker.
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Re: Friends and agreeing to disagree!
« Reply #21 on: Nov 26th, 2002, 5:52pm » |
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on Nov 26th, 2002, 5:48pm, jonny wrote:My take!
You love the whole woman and not one part!!
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BAHAHAHAHAHAHAA!!!!!!!!! You kill me!
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« Reply #22 on: Nov 26th, 2002, 5:53pm » |
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Well, jonny, I'm in LOOOOVVVEEEE!
In fact, I take back every single unkind word I've EVER said about you-
now, what color are my eyes?
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« Reply #23 on: Nov 26th, 2002, 5:55pm » |
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You guys crack me up! What does that say about the hooker??? Is she not a woman? Is she not human? Talk about demeaning....... a romantic slam Bahahaha! ;D
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Re: Friends and agreeing to disagree!
« Reply #24 on: Nov 26th, 2002, 6:21pm » |
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Jonny... Wouldn't work... All the prostitues around here are flat chested.
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