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Jill
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Loss in Italy
« on: Nov 1st, 2002, 4:15pm » |
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I am not sure how to begin this, where to begin or even what to say, I just know that something needs to be said.
I lost two little cousins in Italy from the earthquake and some of my family has had to leave their homes. My cousins were Natalia and Maria, they were both six and were the sweetest kids in the world. Natalia had turned six not that long ago, she was so happy for her birthday.
They came to visit us not that long ago and I kept in touch with them alot, I always had pictures. I loved them, still do and the pain is unbearable.
I am not sure how to deal with this, it is too much on top of everything else. I feel so alone, scared and confused about it all. Why did it happen? Why would two inocent little girls be killed for no reason? It is just not fair at all and I just dont understand.
It is so hard to imagine and I never would have thought such tragedy would strike our family..why?
How does one get past the pain...does it ever get easier? I hate this so much....
Thanks for listening, I dont know what to think anymore about anything. I am sorry if this is confusing but my mind is turning too fast for me to write..sorry.
Thanks guys for everything
Jill
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Re: Loss in Italy
« Reply #1 on: Nov 1st, 2002, 4:22pm » |
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We're sorry to hear of your loss. Our prayers and sympathies are being sent to you and your family.
I also do not understand why the children have to be taken from this earth, especially in such a tragic way.
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Re: Loss in Italy
« Reply #2 on: Nov 1st, 2002, 4:22pm » |
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Jill I am so sorry for your pain and sorrow. It is never easy to loose a loved one especially when they are young. I don't know what to say except that I will pray for you and your family to have peace and confort through this trial.
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Re: Loss in Italy
« Reply #3 on: Nov 1st, 2002, 4:27pm » |
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Jill, i'm very sorry to hear this, it's not fair & i can't imagine the grief you & your family are goin' thru. we are here for you!! ...........2late
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Re: Loss in Italy
« Reply #4 on: Nov 1st, 2002, 4:36pm » |
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Prayers going out for you and your family. Sometimes life is tougher than we ever thought it could be. For sure those two little girls have wings and are in heaven. Know that they are at peace and try and take some comfort in that. In the meantime ... I'll be praying for you and yours.
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Jill-
I am so sorry to hear that you have lost 2 such precious ones from your life. Hold their memories close to your heart. Your cousins will be remembered on 2 continents. You will get past this- it's not easy, but those little girls will be with you forever, and some time from now the pain you're feeling will be replaced with your fondest memories. My heartfelt sympathy to you & your family.
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Re: Loss in Italy
« Reply #6 on: Nov 1st, 2002, 4:39pm » |
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I don't know the answer either - it's not fair. Heart goes out to you and your family.
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Re: Loss in Italy
« Reply #7 on: Nov 1st, 2002, 4:47pm » |
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Prayers going out for you and your family
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Re: Loss in Italy
« Reply #9 on: Nov 1st, 2002, 5:17pm » |
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My heart goes out to you and your family, Jill.
I'm so sorry.
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Re: Loss in Italy
« Reply #10 on: Nov 1st, 2002, 5:36pm » |
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Thoughts and wishes for you and your family, as well as everyone else connected with the tragedy.
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Know you have friends here that care.
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Re: Loss in Italy
« Reply #12 on: Nov 1st, 2002, 8:35pm » |
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....so sorry to hear of your loss. Please know that they are in our prayers and send our condolences to your family in Italy. Also please let us know how YOU are doing.......Steve, Martha and the kids....
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Re: Loss in Italy
« Reply #13 on: Nov 1st, 2002, 11:31pm » |
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Damn Jill......The world has no business doing that to kids. All of us feel this kind of thing a little.
For you, it will never be as it was but, it will become something which will be easier to set to one side for a time. It will take time though. Feel free to vent.
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Re: Loss in Italy
« Reply #14 on: Nov 1st, 2002, 11:40pm » |
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Prayers are with you and the families in this tragedy.
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Re: Loss in Italy
« Reply #15 on: Nov 2nd, 2002, 12:22am » |
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My dear Jilll.. 
Its easy to see why people get mad at the world.. just remember these two precious girls as the sweet angels you know.....there is a plan for us all, however hard it feels.. Wish I had more to offer, but here's a shoulder if you need one.
Heartfelt sympathies to you and your loved ones... so sorry for your loss sweetie.
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Re: Loss in Italy
« Reply #16 on: Nov 2nd, 2002, 12:46am » |
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Jill sweetheart, my thoughts and prayers are with you. It is a sad time for you I know. None of us know the reason and when it's something sudden and tragic it makes it all the harder to understand or comprehend.
In time your grief WILL subside, and in place will remain the fond memories. And when you're able to smile when remembering, their joy will be lived through you in the moment.
Pray for them and all others struck by this tragedy along with us.
My sympathies to you and your family,
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Re: Loss in Italy
« Reply #17 on: Nov 2nd, 2002, 3:30am » |
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Jill, I am so sorry.
That school (500 miles far from me) have had to be demolished 5 years ago (the Police discovered the documents in the Mayor house).
All the pupils of the 1st grade of elementary school has beed died in the earthquake. And the punishment for the Mayor, that forgot the demolition has been very hard..... his daughter died in the same school!!!
I'm with you for the loss, and if you need that I phone of write to your relatives, just ask, I will do for sure.
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Re: Loss in Italy
« Reply #18 on: Nov 2nd, 2002, 7:04am » |
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Thank you all for your kind words, you truly are some of the best people around and so much like my family.
I can not believe the horror that has evolved and am at a loss at believing how these two beautiful little girls can be gone. I really used to believe that some things are not to be understood and that there is a reaon for everything that happens, but now I am in doubt. It just does not seem right at all.
They were so wonderful, always smiling, so inquisitive and just the nicest kids. They had a way of working into anyones heart with their personalities and thier kindness. I am sorry that I keep talking about them but I just cant help it, I cant believe that they are gone.
Now all I can do is try to get by this, a task that is not easy in any sense and I am not sure how to do it. I am going to try and get funds or something for those in Italy that have had to leave their homes, for everyone not just my family. The pain is so unbearable, I need to help in some way, some form.
Thanks again for your thoughts and prayers, no words can heal the pain but knowing that you are there, my other family does help to ease the burden.
Jill
PS. Not4Hire- I am still battling the beast more than 8 times a day and they are some hard hits. Thanks for wondering.
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Re: Loss in Italy
« Reply #20 on: Nov 2nd, 2002, 9:24am » |
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Jill, told you ppl here would lend support. Now go back and re read den's post
Thank you den your words ALWAYS seem to keep us in the right perspective.
You know how to reach me if you need Jill,
wishing pf moments in time for all,
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Re: Loss in Italy
« Reply #21 on: Nov 2nd, 2002, 10:46am » |
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I know there are no answers-but when catastrophic things happen you always end up asking "why"??? Man made violence is one thing-but theres no way to explain acts of God and nature. I read only 1 building totally collapsed that day-the school. Why? Why not the jail?? A day starts off like normal, you head off to school-it's just unbelievable. I pray too for your family and all the lost souls.
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Re: Loss in Italy
« Reply #22 on: Nov 2nd, 2002, 2:43pm » |
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I am sorry to be writing again about the pain of this tragedy but I need to get it out and you guys are so great, so I hope that you dont mind at all.
I decided to take some "me" time today and went to a local park to just relax and, I guess, let my mind wander and to find a sense of serenity. I am trying to work through my thoughts, to understand them and to move past them, if that makes sense. However I am at a loss as to how to get past them, to work with them and understand them.
I am at the point now where I still cant believe that all of this has happened. These children, though so far away, were so close and were like sisters to me. Our family is very close and distance could never affect that fact.
I keep trying to cope with it but the only way that my mind is letting me think about it is to want blame someone. Who do we blame though? I know that it is not supposed to be anyones fault, but it sure feels like it should be.
Do I try and blame our ultimate power? That does not seem right since He is supposed to always have a plan and I dont like the feeling of blaming Him. (I dont mean to offend anyone, I really dont)
Do I blame the mayor? Shouldnt he have know that the building was unsafe and no children should have been in there? I would think so and it is so easy to blame him but he also lost a child, so that is not fair either and maybe it was out of his control.
Then I come to, do I blame myself for all of this? Have I done something so bad that I deserve all of this pain? I thought that I had enough pain (the clusters, my family situation, etc) but I guess not. I suppose that someone is trying to tell me something but the words are muffled.
I am aware that I am not supposed to feel this way but I know that my family is great and they dont deserve this, no family does for that matter. It seems like I will never learn to accept, to deal with or to understand why all of this has happened, why even the last few weeks have been so rough.
I thank you all for "listening" and I cherish everything that you say. I appreciate the help and it is so wonderful to know that others care, that others understand the pain.
Jill
PS Den's words were beautiful and I really took them to heart today...thank you.
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Re: Loss in Italy
« Reply #23 on: Nov 2nd, 2002, 3:36pm » |
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Jill,
Don't ever apologize for posting - that's what we are here for. I'm not very good at putting things into words but den did say it as well as it could be said.
I can't explain why things happen the way they do but please know that we are all here for you and prayers and sympathies go out to you and your family.
Lots of love,
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Re: Loss in Italy
« Reply #24 on: Nov 2nd, 2002, 5:28pm » |
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Jill My thoughts are with you. May you find some peace for the pain in your heart as well as your head.
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